Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex How To Date Well Without Losing Your Faith (Or Your Heart), #601
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Mar 30, 2026 Melody Fabien, a ministry leader who embraced a season of singleness and boundary-led preparation for marriage. C.D. Fabien, a transformed ministry leader focused on intentional dating and sexual discipleship. They discuss waiting with purpose, preserving boundaries, hearing God’s voice in relationships, practical steps for discernment, and how community and accountability shape healthy dating.
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Seven Year Singleness Vow
- Melody committed to be single for seven years after a broken engagement and felt God press that vow on her at age 20.
- She used journaling and spiritual leaders to steward the commitment and grew in satisfaction with Christ during the hard middle years.
Conversion Led To Radical Purity Choices
- C.D. described a radical conversion in college that led him to a high standard of sexual holiness and a decision to save his next kiss for his wedding day.
- He gradually removed access to pornography, joined ministry, and adopted practical safeguards like not being alone with women.
Three Confirmations Then Intentional Pursuit
- C.D. sensed God’s confirmation for Melody after seeing her three times on the mission trip, prayed about it, then intentionally pursued her afterward.
- His first impulsive compliment (“you’re so beautiful”) revealed he was genuinely drawn and led to formal pursuit.