Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships 568 - When You Want More Time But Your Partner Won’t Give It
Feb 24, 2026
They dig into conflicts about how much and what kind of time partners need. Different “time tastes” get named, from everyday errands to playful outings, parallel presence, rituals, and team projects. Research on quantity versus quality and how novelty and self-disclosure change needs comes up. Practical tactics like auditing your time, experimenting with shared activities, and putting phones away are discussed.
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Even Chores Can Be Self-Expanding
- Household tasks done together can produce self-expansion and relationship energy, likely due to mindset and stimulating exchanges.
- Mewes found chores ranked high for self-expansion when partners engaged interactively while doing them.
Special Outings Restore Romance
- 'Disneyland time' describes craving special, playful, or romantic outings that contrast everyday life.
- Often long-term partners miss this sparkle and feel like roommates rather than romantic partners.
Unstructured Time Feels Abundant But Slips Away
- Unstructured or spontaneous time gives a sense of abundance and presence but is hardest to achieve when both are busy.
- Emily notes downtime often collapses into chores or worry instead of relaxed presence.