Better Sex 382: [Soapbox] Activities for connection
Apr 16, 2026
A therapist describes playful couple exercises adapted from MDMA-assisted therapy training. Try a slow appreciation practice to regulate the nervous system and deepen closeness. Learn a curiosity game for honest, non-confrontational questions. Hear a short protocol for difficult conversations and a win-win brainstorming prompt to find mutual solutions.
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MDMA Could Accelerate Couples Breakthroughs
- MDMA can drop defenses, open the heart, and accelerate connection, which excites Jessa as a couples therapist.
- She stresses MDMA remains illegal outside research, so she describes potential without encouraging use.
Jessa's 30 Hour MDMA Training Experience
- Jessa completed a 30-hour MDMA-assisted therapy training and learned several couple games used in that context.
- She plans to adapt those exercises in her couples intensives and believes they'd be stronger under medicine but still useful sober.
Do A Slow Appreciation Game
- Do the appreciation game by taking slow turns sharing specific gratitudes to shift attention from complaints to positives.
- Jessa recommends going longer than feels natural so early easy items give way to deeper emotional connection and nervous system regulation.