ALLSMITH EP. 100 - Dr. Carin LaCount | Self-Love Is a Lie? Why Everything You’ve Been Told Might Be Wrong
What if the love you’ve been chasing isn’t out there, but within you—and what if the story you’ve been telling yourself about self-love is the biggest obstacle of all? In this milestone 100th episode of ALLSMITH, Bryce sits down with Dr. Carin LaCount—self-love coach, author of The Love Liar, and optometrist with a mission to help the world see differently.
This conversation is a journey into the heart of what it really means to love yourself, to shed the masks, and to rewrite the narratives that keep us small. It’s equal parts tender, raw, and disruptive.
We open with the image of a mirror fogged with steam—how so many of us see a blurred reflection of who we are. Dr. Carin shares how her work helps people wipe that mirror clean. She uses her experience as an optometrist to explore the powerful metaphor of vision: just as corrective lenses help us see the world clearly, honest self-love helps us see ourselves clearly.
She vulnerably shares her own journey of being a “love liar,” wearing the perfect-on-the-outside mask while battling deep self-criticism. The stories are deeply human and wildly relatable.
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Episode Highlights
• [0:00] – Forging the milestone: Bryce reflects on hitting 100 episodes and why this conversation is a perfect symbol of ALLSMITH’s mission to forge edges and deepen connection.
• [5:30] – Dr. Carin’s origin story: From optometry to self-love coaching and writing The Love Liar. How “seeing” took on a whole new meaning in her life.
• [12:45] – The “Love Liar” concept explained: How we subconsciously lie to ourselves about love and worthiness, and the moment she realized she’d been living that lie too.
• [18:20] – Metaphor of blurred vision: How Dr. Carin uses her background in eye care to explain why we often see love through distorted lenses.
• [27:00] – Bryce shares a powerful story of losing his parents and the lessons of love and loyalty they left behind. How tragedy sharpened his vision for ALLSMITH’s purpose.
• [36:15] – The inner critic: Why we confuse achievement with worth, and Dr. Carin’s tools to silence that voice and embody self-compassion.
• [48:00] – Practical steps: Daily habits and perspective shifts to begin practicing real self-love. Simple exercises that anyone can start today.
• [56:40] – Myth-busting: Dr. Carin tackles the common “self-love” advice that might actually be making us more disconnected.
• [1:05:00] – The call to courage: Bryce and Carin discuss why vulnerability is the birthplace of true love—both inward and outward.
• [1:12:15] – Final words: What Dr. Carin wants everyone to know about love, worthiness, and how to stop lying to yourself.
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This episode isn’t just about self-help. It’s an invitation to forge your own edges—to see yourself differently, to strip away the masks, and to step into a life anchored in truth. As Bryce says often, “Fitness is the spark, but love is the fire.”
If you’ve ever felt like you’re “performing” love instead of feeling it, or if you’ve struggled to see your own worth, this conversation will challenge and inspire you.
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