The Unplanned Podcast with Matt & Abby Modern Masculinity, Feminism, & Raising Boys in 2026
Mar 18, 2026
They debate polarized conversations about masculinity and how boys might internalize criticism. They unpack differences between harm-driven anger and social-media overcorrection. They discuss teaching emotional intelligence, empathy, gentleness, protectiveness, and service as updated masculine traits. They explore practical parenting mantras, consequences, and modeling therapy and critical thinking.
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Blanket Gender Hate Can Damage Boys
- Abby warns that blanket statements like “I hate men” can make young boys internalize shame and doubt about themselves.
- She explains her concern as a mother of a two- and three-year-old forming identity during a culture that sometimes vilifies men.
Redefine Providing Beyond Paychecks
- Matt reframes providing beyond income: caregiving, protection, emotional labor all count as provision.
- He tells men their value isn’t only wages and applauds service, presence, and parenting as essential contributions.
Use Positive Redirection With Toddlers
- Abby directs parents to redirect with positive commands (do this) rather than only saying no.
- She shares their family mantra: Howards are patient, kind, generous to guide toddler behavior constructively.