Matt and Abby open up about what it feels like to raise boys in a moment where conversations around masculinity feel louder and more polarized than ever. They unpack the difference between healthy and unhealthy masculinity, how criticism aimed at grown men can be internalized by young boys, and the role social media plays in amplifying extremes.
They also share their biggest hopes as parents — raising sons with strength, humility, emotional awareness, and a sense of purpose in a rapidly changing world.
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Chapters:
00:00 - Modern Masculinity
01:53 - Living in a man hating culture viral clip
08:05 - How did we get here
10:08 - Redefining masculinity
17:36 - Not all men
18:42 - Raising good men
25:50 - Teaching our boys emotional regulation
29:46 - Boys vs. Girls
38:41 - Consequences
41:06 - Service in healthy masculinity
45:10 - Why young men are afraid of emotions
50:44 - Pay disparity in the home
01:00:17 - Normalizing therapy
01:03:47 - Social Media and the gender wars
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