The New Man What Do You Really Want? Getting Out of Autopilot and the Prescribed Life — Alyson and Tripp Lanier
Jan 6, 2026
Discover whether you're driving your life or merely reacting to it. Learn about the cultural programming that leads to feeling trapped in a 'prescribed life.' Explore the concept of frustration as a signal for unmet desires. Question the obligations that keep you stuck and consider what truly brings satisfaction. Embrace small daily choices to cultivate autonomy and align with your genuine wants. Engage in self-reflection through journaling to uncover suppressed desires. Ultimately, it's about mapping fulfilling experiences instead of blindly following societal scripts.
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Client Up At 4AM For The Image
- A client woke at 4 a.m. to work out despite sleeping poorly because he wanted to perform the CEO role.
- Tripp Lanier used this to show people often follow scripts instead of listening to their bodies.
Ask Small Questions Daily
- Build the muscle of asking yourself small, frequent questions: "What do I want right now?".
- Tripp Lanier advises running tiny experiments to gather data about what actually satisfies you.
Write Your Hidden No's
- When irritated, journal every 'no' you hold back to uncover real wants and resentments.
- Try the 'bad girl/bad boy' exercise to list forbidden desires and reveal authentic preferences.
