The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett *NEW* Body Language Expert: When You Do This You Look like A Loser...(Sorry But You Do)! This Is The Real Reason You're Still Single!
Apr 10, 2025
02:10:17
Can you make someone like you in seconds? Vanessa Van Edwards returns with the science-backed secrets of dating and likeability - tested in real-life dating scenarios for the very first time.
Vanessa Van Edwards is the founder of Science of People, a platform dedicated to teaching the skills of communication, charisma, and leadership. She is the bestselling author of ‘Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication’.
00:00 Intro
03:02 How Important Is It to Master the Skill of Communication?
03:33 Are We Set in Our Ways? Is Charisma Genetic?
04:18 Different Types of Awkwardness in People
04:53 How to Make Friends – The 3 Core Friendship Values
06:37 How Do You Figure Out Your Core Friendship Values?
07:34 How Many People Has Vanessa Taught These Skills? And What Do They Want?
08:18 First Impressions
10:24 Profile Pictures
14:10 Add Cues for a Better First Impression
15:28 How Sunglasses Block Connection
16:21 More Good Cues for First Impressions
16:54 How Do I Make a Really Bad First Impression?
18:30 What We Need to Signal to Express Warmth
21:27 Breaking the Script
23:19 Master Communicators and the "Chemical Cocktail"
28:11 Online First Impressions
29:11 Be the Red Apple
30:17 How to Make an Impression on Zoom
32:08 The Story Toolbox
35:07 How Important Is Background on Zoom?
36:29 Where to Look on Zoom Calls
37:16 Date Experiments
43:09 Drivers and Passengers in Conversation
44:23 Micro Wins
45:05 Body Language That Indicates Attraction
49:35 Why Busyness Is Not a Mark of Success
51:16 The Jam Study – Too Many Choices
52:12 Prioritizing Self-Care Over Connection
53:08 Dating Checklists
54:23 Do We Get More Numb the More We Date?
55:32 Two Challenges If You're in a Funk or Feeling Lonely
58:26 Steve Being a Control Freak
01:00:14 Networking Events
01:00:55 Ads
01:09:20 Using the Word "Because" as a Leader
01:11:01 How Do We Know If Someone Likes Us?
01:14:20 What If You're Not a Funny Person?
01:16:09 Can You Learn to Be Funny?
01:16:57 Touch
01:18:10 Hacks for Being Funny
01:19:36 Channeling Other People
01:20:36 Microexpressions
01:21:37 Reading Fear in People's Faces
01:23:24 Seeing Disgust in People's Faces
01:25:09 How to Tell If Someone Is Angry Without Them Saying It
01:27:05 How to Tell When Someone Is Truly Happy
01:28:49 How to Tell If Someone Is Sad Even If They Don’t Say It
01:31:03 How to Tell If Someone Is Surprised
01:32:33 How to Tell If Someone Has Contempt Toward You
01:35:23 Can and Should We Change Our Personalities?
01:37:20 Steve's Personality Traits
01:38:49 Making Your New Partner Take a Personality Test
01:41:20 Conscientious People
01:57:05 Do Extroverts Have Better Immunity?
01:58:04 Personality Traits of Lifelong Singles
01:59:57 Should We Know Other People's Personality Types When We Meet Them?
02:01:38 Feeling Like the Vibe Is Off
02:03:31 What Are You Doing to Serve Others
Follow Vanessa:
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Website - https://g2ul0.app.link/6KQtfyqaqSb
You can find out more about Vanessa’s personality test, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/SnXJL6ntqSb
You can purchase Vanessa’s book, ‘Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication’, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/L0YqrVvaqSb
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Vanessa Van Edwards is the founder of Science of People, a platform dedicated to teaching the skills of communication, charisma, and leadership. She is the bestselling author of ‘Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication’.
00:00 Intro
03:02 How Important Is It to Master the Skill of Communication?
03:33 Are We Set in Our Ways? Is Charisma Genetic?
04:18 Different Types of Awkwardness in People
04:53 How to Make Friends – The 3 Core Friendship Values
06:37 How Do You Figure Out Your Core Friendship Values?
07:34 How Many People Has Vanessa Taught These Skills? And What Do They Want?
08:18 First Impressions
10:24 Profile Pictures
14:10 Add Cues for a Better First Impression
15:28 How Sunglasses Block Connection
16:21 More Good Cues for First Impressions
16:54 How Do I Make a Really Bad First Impression?
18:30 What We Need to Signal to Express Warmth
21:27 Breaking the Script
23:19 Master Communicators and the "Chemical Cocktail"
28:11 Online First Impressions
29:11 Be the Red Apple
30:17 How to Make an Impression on Zoom
32:08 The Story Toolbox
35:07 How Important Is Background on Zoom?
36:29 Where to Look on Zoom Calls
37:16 Date Experiments
43:09 Drivers and Passengers in Conversation
44:23 Micro Wins
45:05 Body Language That Indicates Attraction
49:35 Why Busyness Is Not a Mark of Success
51:16 The Jam Study – Too Many Choices
52:12 Prioritizing Self-Care Over Connection
53:08 Dating Checklists
54:23 Do We Get More Numb the More We Date?
55:32 Two Challenges If You're in a Funk or Feeling Lonely
58:26 Steve Being a Control Freak
01:00:14 Networking Events
01:00:55 Ads
01:09:20 Using the Word "Because" as a Leader
01:11:01 How Do We Know If Someone Likes Us?
01:14:20 What If You're Not a Funny Person?
01:16:09 Can You Learn to Be Funny?
01:16:57 Touch
01:18:10 Hacks for Being Funny
01:19:36 Channeling Other People
01:20:36 Microexpressions
01:21:37 Reading Fear in People's Faces
01:23:24 Seeing Disgust in People's Faces
01:25:09 How to Tell If Someone Is Angry Without Them Saying It
01:27:05 How to Tell When Someone Is Truly Happy
01:28:49 How to Tell If Someone Is Sad Even If They Don’t Say It
01:31:03 How to Tell If Someone Is Surprised
01:32:33 How to Tell If Someone Has Contempt Toward You
01:35:23 Can and Should We Change Our Personalities?
01:37:20 Steve's Personality Traits
01:38:49 Making Your New Partner Take a Personality Test
01:41:20 Conscientious People
01:57:05 Do Extroverts Have Better Immunity?
01:58:04 Personality Traits of Lifelong Singles
01:59:57 Should We Know Other People's Personality Types When We Meet Them?
02:01:38 Feeling Like the Vibe Is Off
02:03:31 What Are You Doing to Serve Others
Follow Vanessa:
Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/4i5lvOnaqSb
Website - https://g2ul0.app.link/6KQtfyqaqSb
You can find out more about Vanessa’s personality test, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/SnXJL6ntqSb
You can purchase Vanessa’s book, ‘Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication’, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/L0YqrVvaqSb
The 1% Diary is back – limited time only:
https://bit.ly/1-Diary-Megaphone-ad-r…
The Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards (Second Edition):
https://g2ul0.app.link/f31dsUttKKb
Get email updates: https://bit.ly/diary-of-a-ceo-yt
Think like a CEO – join the 100 CEOs newsletter: https://bit.ly/100-ceos-newsletter
Follow Steven: https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb
Sponsors:
Get your hands on the Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards here: https://bit.ly/conversationcards-mp
Linkedin Jobs - https://www.linkedin.com/doac
ZOE - http://joinzoe.com with code BARTLETT10 for 10% off
Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theexperienceplus.substack.com