The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett Charisma Teacher: Psychology Of Why People Don't Like You! People Are Attracted To These Traits! The Secret To Being Instantly Likeable!
Feb 3, 2025
02:14:13
They say you either have charisma or you don’t, but Charlie Houpert proves charisma can be built, and reveals the secret code to mastering it for success in love, work, and friendship
Charlie Houpert is the co-founder of the confidence-building online platform, ‘Charisma on Command’. He is the author of books such as, ‘The Anti Pick Up Line: Real Habits To Naturally Attract Stunning Women’ and ‘Charisma On Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet’.
In this conversation, Charlie and Steven discuss topics such as, how to stop feeling awkward in social situations, the ultimate body language hack to build trust, how to become instantly likeable, and how to master the art of persuasion.
00:00 Intro
02:25 What Is It You Do?
04:39 How Much Will These Skills Shift Someone’s Life?
06:35 Is It Something You Can Learn?
07:15 Your YouTube Channel
09:37 I Was Shy and Introverted—How I Changed
12:47 What Did You Think of Yourself in the Early Years?
15:22 What Was the Biggest Difference in You?
17:32 First Impressions
21:07 Engineer the Conversation You Want to Have
24:38 How to Get Out of Small Talk
26:05 Flirt With the World
27:55 Prey vs. Predator Movements
35:02 The Confidence Trick Before Talking to a Big Crowd
37:02 Do We Underestimate the Ways We Communicate?
41:11 Is Talking About Yourself a Bad Thing?
43:22 How to Connect With Someone in a Normal Interaction
47:40 How to Figure Out if an Interaction Is Real
50:19 People Controlling the Narratives That Reach You
52:18 Narcissists and Sociopaths
55:28 What Billion-Dollar Business Would You Build and Not Sell?
01:01:20 Six Charismatic Mindsets
01:03:16 Elon Musk Salute
01:06:13 The Media Has Made Saying Sorry the Wrong Thing to Do
01:08:26 Ads
01:09:24 Is Trump Charismatic?
01:14:22 Impeccable Honesty and Integrity
01:18:06 I Don’t Need to Convince Anyone of Anything
01:20:43 I Proactively Share My Purpose
01:23:46 Be the First to Humanize the Interaction
01:26:13 Charismatic Types of People
01:31:23 Obama’s Charisma
01:32:26 The Importance of Charisma
01:33:43 Ads
01:35:40 How to Use These Skills to Get a Job or Promotion
01:41:07 What Are Women Attracted to in Your Opinion?
01:45:08 Are People Testing to See if You Have Standards?
01:49:21 Five Habits That Make People Instantly Dislike You
01:53:56 Speaking Like a Leader
01:54:46 Pausing Instead of Using Filler Words
01:56:12 Does Body Language Matter When Speaking?
01:57:35 The Fundamentals of Being Confident
01:59:19 What’s the Most Important Thing You’re Doing to Increase Your Well-Being?
02:02:53 What Are the Mixture of Emotions You Feel?
02:08:19 Is There Anything You Wish You Could Have Said to That Boy?
Follow Charlie:
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Charisma on Command - https://g2ul0.app.link/Bo2XEO2tBQb
Charisma University - https://bit.ly/CUDOAC
Watch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACEpisodes
My new book! 'The 33 Laws Of Business & Life' is out now - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACBook
You can purchase the The Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards: Second Edition, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/f31dsUttKKb
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Charlie Houpert is the co-founder of the confidence-building online platform, ‘Charisma on Command’. He is the author of books such as, ‘The Anti Pick Up Line: Real Habits To Naturally Attract Stunning Women’ and ‘Charisma On Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet’.
In this conversation, Charlie and Steven discuss topics such as, how to stop feeling awkward in social situations, the ultimate body language hack to build trust, how to become instantly likeable, and how to master the art of persuasion.
00:00 Intro
02:25 What Is It You Do?
04:39 How Much Will These Skills Shift Someone’s Life?
06:35 Is It Something You Can Learn?
07:15 Your YouTube Channel
09:37 I Was Shy and Introverted—How I Changed
12:47 What Did You Think of Yourself in the Early Years?
15:22 What Was the Biggest Difference in You?
17:32 First Impressions
21:07 Engineer the Conversation You Want to Have
24:38 How to Get Out of Small Talk
26:05 Flirt With the World
27:55 Prey vs. Predator Movements
35:02 The Confidence Trick Before Talking to a Big Crowd
37:02 Do We Underestimate the Ways We Communicate?
41:11 Is Talking About Yourself a Bad Thing?
43:22 How to Connect With Someone in a Normal Interaction
47:40 How to Figure Out if an Interaction Is Real
50:19 People Controlling the Narratives That Reach You
52:18 Narcissists and Sociopaths
55:28 What Billion-Dollar Business Would You Build and Not Sell?
01:01:20 Six Charismatic Mindsets
01:03:16 Elon Musk Salute
01:06:13 The Media Has Made Saying Sorry the Wrong Thing to Do
01:08:26 Ads
01:09:24 Is Trump Charismatic?
01:14:22 Impeccable Honesty and Integrity
01:18:06 I Don’t Need to Convince Anyone of Anything
01:20:43 I Proactively Share My Purpose
01:23:46 Be the First to Humanize the Interaction
01:26:13 Charismatic Types of People
01:31:23 Obama’s Charisma
01:32:26 The Importance of Charisma
01:33:43 Ads
01:35:40 How to Use These Skills to Get a Job or Promotion
01:41:07 What Are Women Attracted to in Your Opinion?
01:45:08 Are People Testing to See if You Have Standards?
01:49:21 Five Habits That Make People Instantly Dislike You
01:53:56 Speaking Like a Leader
01:54:46 Pausing Instead of Using Filler Words
01:56:12 Does Body Language Matter When Speaking?
01:57:35 The Fundamentals of Being Confident
01:59:19 What’s the Most Important Thing You’re Doing to Increase Your Well-Being?
02:02:53 What Are the Mixture of Emotions You Feel?
02:08:19 Is There Anything You Wish You Could Have Said to That Boy?
Follow Charlie:
Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/sX0XNx4tBQb
Charisma on Command - https://g2ul0.app.link/Bo2XEO2tBQb
Charisma University - https://bit.ly/CUDOAC
Watch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACEpisodes
My new book! 'The 33 Laws Of Business & Life' is out now - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACBook
You can purchase the The Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards: Second Edition, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/f31dsUttKKb
Follow me:
https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb
Sponsors:
Linkedin Ads - https://www.linkedin.com/DIARY
NordVPN - https://NORDVPN.COM/DOAC
ZOE - http://joinzoe.com with code BARTLETT10 for 10% off
Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theexperienceplus.substack.com