Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens

257: How Do I Guide a Kid Who Only Cares About Becoming an Influencer?

Feb 3, 2026
Kids dreaming of influencer fame are discussed alongside rising school disengagement and failing grades. The conversation covers when influencer ambitions become risky and how to tether kids back to school with activities, limits on device use, and realistic consequences. Strategies for neurodivergent children and ways to turn influencer skills into useful school-related abilities are explored.
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INSIGHT

When Fantasy Meets Academic Collapse

  • A kid obsessed with influencer fame is especially concerning when school performance collapses.
  • Lisa Damour calls failing out in eighth grade 'on fire' and a serious red flag for long-term risk.
ADVICE

Tether Screen Time To School Participation

  • Require activities that tether the child to school life before granting screen privileges.
  • Remove video game and online time until the child joins clubs or real-world school activities.
ADVICE

Find The School Glue First

  • Look for social glue at school: friends, clubs, or liked teachers often motivate attendance more than classroom content.
  • Help the child find a school foothold so they care enough to avoid losing that environment.
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