On Attachment #109: Anxious Attachment & Open Relationships
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Sep 14, 2023 Discussion about anxious attachment patterns like fear of abandonment, unworthiness and jealousy. Exploration of how non-monogamous arrangements can amplify those insecurities. Emphasis on building inner security before trying open relationships. Warnings about agreeing to openness out of fear of loss and the need for clear boundaries, direct communication and self-advocacy.
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Anxious Attachment Seeks Security By Clinging
- Anxious attachment often seeks relationship to soothe fears of abandonment and unworthiness.
- Stephanie Rigg explains anxious people tend to cling to relationships to eliminate doubt and regain perceived security.
Wait To Explore Non Monogamy Until You Feel Secure
- Don't enter non-monogamy while deeply anxious or without a stable inner foundation.
- Stephanie advises building comfort and security within yourself before adding the complexity of multiple partners.
Open Relationships Add Complexity That Triggers Anxiety
- Open relationship structures add layers of complexity that commonly increase triggers for anxious people.
- Stephanie notes more people, needs, and dynamics often make non-monogamy more complicated than monogamy.