Savage Lovecast Savage Lovecast Episode 1011
Mar 24, 2026
Listeners hear frank talk about sexual compatibility when physical size affects pleasure. Practical, slow approaches to trying anal and using toys get discussed. Conversations explore polyamory, memoirs about open relationships, and navigating sexting and friend‑zone dynamics in nonmonogamy. Multiple‑orgasm experiences and whether one can have too much sex also come up.
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Noticing Attraction Is Normal Not Proof Of Infidelity
- Noticing attractiveness isn't the same as wanting to act on it, but searching for signs of attraction fuels insecurity.
- Dan Savage emphasizes monogamy means not acting on attractions and warns jealous partners not to hunt for evidence.
End Relationships When Sexual Needs Clash
- Break up if sexual compatibility is fundamentally mismatched and sex is important to you.
- Dan Savage tells a caller her partner's below-average penis and her need for human PIV mean the relationship will likely fail sexually, so end it kindly now.
Slowly Train For Comfortable Anal
- Progress to anal slowly using toys, fingers, and solo practice before partner penetration.
- Dan Savage recommends solo dildo practice, vibrator pressure on the perineum, butt plugs, breathing, and the receiving partner controlling pace for comfort.