The Next Big Idea Daily How to Disagree Without Turning It Into a Fight
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Apr 7, 2026 
Peter T. Coleman, a Columbia psychologist studying long-term conflict and peace. Julia Minson, a Harvard behavioral scientist who researches how people disagree. They discuss science-backed ways to disagree without escalation. Practical language and rehearsal to signal receptiveness. Big-picture strategies to counter toxic polarization and build cooperative habits.
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Julia's Meeting Choice About Speaking Up
- Julia Minson recounts facing a choice in a meeting when a colleague proposed an idea she found asinine.
- She weighed speaking up and risking an argument versus staying silent and regretting it later, illustrating everyday disagreement dilemmas.
Screaming About Cauliflower With Grandpa
- Minson shares a vivid childhood memory of a screaming fight with her grandfather over how to store cauliflower.
- The trivial topic highlights how assumptions about the other's ignorance or immorality, not topic severity, fuel conflict.
Cultivate Receptiveness To Opposing Views
- Become more receptive to opposing views to improve learning and relationships.
- Minson's receptiveness scale predicts who tolerates disagreement, thinks about both sides, and is seen as a better teammate and leader.
