The Sabrina Zohar Show 33: What does a secure relationship look like, how to move to secure in dating and handle feeling ‘rejected' with Therapy Jeff!
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Sep 1, 2023 Therapy Jeff, expert in secure relationships and dating, joins Sabrina on this episode to discuss what a secure relationship looks like, how to move to secure in dating, handle feeling 'rejected,' and the realities of being in a secure relationship. They also explore the concept of the 'spark' in relationships and the influence of reality TV. Learn how to identify secure and insecure relationships, determine emotional availability, and create novelty in long-term relationships.
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Going Viral After Binge Watching Survivor
- Jeff started posting therapy content during the pandemic and went viral on his fourth TikTok.
- He used pandemic boredom (after watching Survivor) as the impetus to create accessible mental health videos.
Secure Couples Fix The System Not Each Other
- Secure couples treat problems as system issues to solve together.
- Therapy Jeff describes secure attachment as asking how the shared organism must change and compromising to meet both partners' needs.
Attachment Styles Are Survival Strategies From Childhood
- Avoidant people often learned emotional numbing in childhood, while anxious people react to inconsistent care.
- Jeff and Sabrina link avoidant memory gaps and anxious hypervigilance to learned survival strategies from early family dynamics.