Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships 529 - Yes, You Can Think Your Way Out of Your Feelings (Sometimes)
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May 13, 2025 The hosts dive into cognitive reappraisal, exploring how we can think our way out of negative emotions in relationships. They discuss the fine line between healthy self-reflection and self-gaslighting, especially when triggers arise. Listeners learn about emotional regulation, the impact of upbringing, and the importance of pausing during tough conversations. With humor and personal anecdotes, they offer practical strategies for navigating feelings, fostering mindfulness, and enhancing emotional dynamics in romantic connections.
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James Gross’s Emotion Regulation Theory
- James Gross’s research differentiates antecedent-focused emotion regulation from response-focused suppression.
- Reappraising emotions before an event reduces distress, but suppressing reactions after increases stress and physiological strain.
Reappraise Before Conflicts
- Approach difficult conversations by assuming your partner wants the relationship to work.
- Use compassionate thoughts before conflicts to reduce emotional upset.
Use HALT to Pause Conflicts
- Calling a pause (HALT) in heated moments helps prevent escalation.
- Use this time to regulate emotions before continuing a difficult conversation.
