Influence & Impact for Leaders Ep 166 – Are you overcommitting?
Jul 15, 2024
Practical signs of overcommitting and how it shows up in leaders' lives. Psychological drivers like seeking validation and perfectionism are explored. Concrete tactics to set realistic standards, clarify expectations and renegotiate workload are highlighted. Short prompts and a five‑day 'How To Say No' challenge are offered to help pause before saying yes.
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Host Confesses To Serial Over Promising
- Carla confesses she's a serial over-promiser who often offers faster deadlines than requested, like promising proposals same day when a week would do.
- She links this to wanting to prove she deserves her senior role and to appear highly responsive in a competitive market.
Over Engineering Lost A Big Commission
- A speaker over-engineered a previously successful talk by adding last-minute material, failed to rehearse, and lost the client's follow-on commission.
- The story shows that adding more content without practice can make delivery worse and harm future opportunities.
Praise Conditioned Over Delivery Pattern
- Carla links adult over-delivery to childhood conditioning where praise was earned by performance, creating a belief that being lovable equals working hard.
- This mindset drives people to seek validation via extra effort and to fear being 'found out' (imposter feelings).