Seeking Validation Through Effort

Do you find yourself overpromising and creating unnecessary stress for yourself?  Or putting in lots more effort than anyone expects, or needs you to? How about saying yes when you’ve got no capacity to get more work done or jumping into help when no-one has asked you to? 

If any of those resonate it sounds like you may be overcommitting - constantly trying to show how much value you add, by going above and beyond when it isn’t needed.   

In this episode I’m going to… 

• break down the ways we overcommit  

• explain why we overcommit 

• share the questions you can ask to help you dial back the overcommitting (and still do a great job!) 

I also share a brilliant new free resource I’ve created for you – the How To Say No Challenge which you can sign up to at carlamillertraining.com/sayno 

This is the first in a series of 3 podcasts this summer around mindset and setting boundaries and you can expect an episode on people pleasing and another one on worrying too much what people think of you.  I’ve also recorded some great guest interviews such as exclusive presence and managing the menopause which we’ll be releasing in the coming months.   

My name’s Carla Miller, leadership coach, author, trainer and founder of Women Leading, the community that helps women lead without overwhelm.  I’m on a mission to empower women leaders in the workplace and make leading less lonely.   

And this is the Influence & Impact podcast for women leaders, helping you confidently navigate the ups and downs of leadership and feel less alone on your journey as a leader.  In fortnightly episodes I share practical tools and insights from myself and my brilliant guests that will help you succeed in your career. 

FREE RESOURCE - How To Say No Challenge: 

If you struggle to say ‘no’ then this free 5 day challenge is for you.  You get a short email containing a short video each day, taking you through the 5 steps of my How To Say No framework. We’ll get you happily saying no in just 5 days. 

Access it at carlamillwertraining.com/sayno  

Women Leading: 

You can now join over 40 women in Women Leading for just £49 a month and learn to lead without overwhelm.  It includes peer support calls, group coaching calls, regular menopause events and a live leadership or wellbeing workshop each month on topics including… 

• Managing an Overwhelmed Team 

• How and When to Coach Your Team 

• Reducing Drama in your Team 

• Giving Feedback Without Feeling Awkward 

Find up more and sign up at https://www.carlamillertraining.com/womenleading  

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