How To Fail With Elizabeth Day Mel Schilling - ‘She was the embodiment of vibrant life’
Mar 24, 2026
Mel Schilling, therapist, leadership coach and relationship expert known from Married at First Sight and author of Confidence. She shares candid stories about mindset shifts, reframing failures as feedback, navigating TV and public scrutiny, patterns in dating and how she found love, and her fertility and IVF journey. Short, warm, and reflective conversation celebrating vibrancy and growth.
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Challenge Your Unhelpful Self Talk
- Start by examining the story you tell yourself and notice self-talk that says what you can or can’t do.
- Mel Schilling recommends journaling to surface fears like rejection or humiliation and then challenge and change that voice.
Spot Then Reframe The Inner Critic
- Recognize the unhelpful internal voice, call it out and practice reframing it repeatedly.
- Mel calls this simple but hard work: awareness first, then challenge and change the thought patterns.
Flip Exposure Fantasies Into Recognition Fantasies
- Use recognition fantasies to flip exposure catastrophizing into envisioning success and acceptance.
- Mel says she as a child imagined being noticed and celebrated, which she now uses to counter imposter syndrome.
