Pillow Talks E229: Ask A Sex Therapist: Swallowing, Fetishes, + Exes
Oct 9, 2025
Dive into tantalizing topics like why some guys are passionate about swallowing and what that reveals about intimacy. Explore the tricky dynamics of 'lasting too long' during sex and how to communicate desires without referencing an ex. Learn how to tackle fetishes and the importance of addressing erectile dysfunction compassionately. Plus, discover ways to make scheduling sex more natural and reclaim a healthy sex life after trauma. Expect real questions and expert advice in this revealing conversation!
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Sidestep Ex References If It Will Hurt
- If a partner might get jealous, avoid naming past partners and instead focus on 'you and me' or a light, positive framing.
- Use half-truths or say 'we tried that once and it wasn't a fit' when honesty would cause harm.
Schedule Quality Time, Not 'Sex Appointments'
- Stop treating scheduling sex as evidence of lost spark; treat it like any other planned date.
- Schedule quality time instead of sex to reduce awkwardness and often spark intimacy naturally.
Spontaneity Is Often Planned
- 'Spontaneous' sex in new relationships is actually scheduled via dates and plans.
- Cohabitation removes those implicit schedules, so couples often stop planning intimacy unintentionally.
