On Attachment #55: "I can't help but hope that my ex comes back. How do I let go so I can move on?"
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Mar 9, 2023 AI Snips
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Allow Grief Without Self-Judgment
- Give yourself permission to grieve and accept that hoping your ex returns is a normal part of breakup processing.
- Avoid self-judgment and shame; Stephanie Rigg stresses that resisting feelings adds tension and impedes healing.
Move First Let Feelings Follow
- Flip the usual logic: move on with actions first instead of waiting to stop hoping before taking steps forward.
- Taking intentional actions creates space for feelings to follow rather than letting feelings dictate choices.
Take Concrete Steps To Rebuild Life
- Take concrete steps now to rebuild your life even if hope remains, such as creating future-focused goals and routines.
- Trust that acting intentionally will eventually shift readiness rather than waiting for emotions to change.