Sex for Saints Episode 323 - How Much Sex is Normal in Marriage?
Jun 28, 2024
They unpack why counting frequency creates pressure and why 'normal' is a myth. Expect discussion of how biology, life stages, and stress shape sexual rhythm. Practical tips cover communication, scheduling, and rebuilding connection with nonsexual touch. They also explore causes of low desire and when to seek medical or professional help.
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No Single Normal Frequency
- There is no single normal for sexual frequency; averages hide wide individual variation.
- Amanda Lauder cites Emily Nagoski and notes the U.S. married average ~once a week but emphasizes uniqueness between partners and stages of life.
Sarah Learned Contentment Beats Comparison
- Sarah worried her low frequency signaled a problem until she talked with her husband and learned he felt content and connected.
- Amanda uses their conversation to show alignment matters more than comparison to others.
Expect Frequency To Fluctuate With Life
- Sexual frequency naturally fluctuates across life stages like newlywed phases, young kids, or jobs.
- Amanda highlights that accepting these fluctuations reduces anxiety and helps couples adapt practically.
