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Your Beliefs Are Sabotaging You | Nir Eyal

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Mar 9, 2026
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Nir Eyal
Nir Eyal, bestselling author and behavior design expert behind Hooked and Indistractable, explores how limiting beliefs shape what we notice and why knowledge alone fails. He discusses pain versus suffering, an inquiry-based four-question method, and how belief fuels long-term motivation and persistence. Short, practical conversations about reframing interpretation and building evidence through action.
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INSIGHT

Beliefs Are Upstream Filters

  • Beliefs are upstream filters that shape what we see, feel, and do rather than objective facts.
  • Nir Eyal contrasts facts, faith, and beliefs to show beliefs are revisable tools that determine perception and action.
ANECDOTE

Flowers Triggered A Belief Check

  • Nir Eyal recounts buying flowers for his mom that arrived half dead and his angry reaction on the phone.
  • The episode shows how his immediate interpretation caused suffering and how inquiry changed his perspective.
ADVICE

Don't Vent Reinforce Beliefs Do Inquiry Instead

  • Avoid venting to reinforce negative beliefs; instead write the belief and run the inquiry process to create a portfolio of perspectives.
  • Nir used his wife's prompt and Byron Katie's inquiry to shift from blame to multiple plausible explanations.
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