Your Beliefs Are Sabotaging You | Nir Eyal
The Art of Charm
Applying the inquiry method to relationships
Nir coaches AJ through identifying and reframing a limiting belief about his sister using four questions.
Why do high performers know exactly what to do — yet still fail to take action?
AJ and Johnny sit down with Nir Eyal, bestselling author of Hooked and Indistractable, to explore the hidden force behind motivation: belief. Nir explains why information alone doesn’t change behavior, how limiting beliefs quietly filter what we see and feel, and why many people stay stuck despite having the right strategy.
From separating pain from suffering to building a “portfolio of perspectives,” this episode reveals how changing your beliefs can unlock persistence, better relationships, and the motivation to follow through.
Chapters
00:00 – Why knowing what to do isn’t enough
07:00 – Beliefs: the filter shaping your reality
16:00 – Pain vs. suffering and the role of interpretation
24:00 – The four-question method to challenge beliefs
34:00 – Motivation’s missing piece: belief
44:00 – Persistence, mindset, and lasting change
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limiting beliefs, motivation psychology, behavior change, mindset, persistence, emotional interpretation, belief systems, decision making, internal locus of control, cognitive reframing, personal growth, relationships, psychological resilience, self awareness
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