Chatting with Candice Why 98% of Men Climax But Only 60% of Women Do | Ian Kerner
Jul 25, 2025
Ian Kerner, a practicing sex therapist and author of 'She Comes First', dives deep into the alarming orgasm gap between men and women. He discusses why 76% of women fake orgasms, the impact of clitoral anatomy on satisfaction, and how different brain activations during arousal affect sexual experiences. Kerner also critiques cultural double standards surrounding sexual communication, the influence of desire frameworks, and the importance of vulnerability and open dialogue in intimate relationships. Practical insights make for a captivating and informative discussion.
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Orgasm Faking and Cultural Harm
- 76% of women report faking orgasms, which harms sexual communication and improvement.
- Some new content suggests women don't need orgasms, which may harm relationships and dismiss female pleasure.
Communicate and Build Arousal
- Allow ample arousal buildup before genital stimulation to increase female pleasure.
- Use fantasies to communicate desires to your partner to improve sexual communication.
Post-Sex Feedback and Frequency
- Practice post-sex conversations to share likes and dislikes if immediate feedback feels difficult.
- Regular sex once a week correlates with higher relationship positivity; quality matters more than frequency.
