The Mark Groves Podcast #002: What Makes a Relationship Able to go the Distance? with Dr. Alexandra Solomon
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Nov 19, 2018 
In this insightful discussion, Dr. Alexandra Solomon, a clinical psychologist and author recognized as the 'Relationship Architect,' explores what keeps long-term relationships thriving. She underscores how childhood messages shape our adult connections and delves into the complexities of sexual chemistry, noting differences in desire for men and women. The conversation also touches on overcoming sexual disconnection and the importance of emotional vulnerability, providing invaluable tools for couples to navigate their relationships more effectively.
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Use Name, Connect, Choose
- Do "name, connect, choose" to map tender spots and unpack triggers.
- Then choose a different response to create connection instead of reacting.
Toilet Seat Trigger Reveals Deeper Wounds
- Alexandra uses the toilet seat example to show how small acts trigger deep pain.
- She traces anger to feelings of being unseen and childhood wounds.
We Seek Evidence That Confirms Our Wounds
- Alexandra explains confirmation bias makes us notice neglect more than care.
- That bias turns old beliefs into fresh triggers in relationships.
