#111: Integrating Empathy - Part 1

In this episode, we discuss how to engage empathetically when she is hurting. The key is: he HAS to integrate empathy in the day-to-day. Jason unpacks three principles to help men be more empathetic with her: Principle #1 - He can't turn on empathy in the hard moments alone. Instead, it's developing the character trait of empathy: being loving, tender, compassionate as a way of life. Principle #2 - He has to engage her pain outside the moment (stay connected to it), so that when the moment arises (when she is in pain), empathy is already there. Practical ways to do this: #1 - Intentionally think about the pain she has experienced. #2 - Three questions he asks:

• What does she feel?

• What do I feel for her?

• In light of where I am at today, how do I feel about myself and what I did in that situation?

Principle #3 - Hard moments can't be the only time that she has a window into how he feels for her. He has to show up in the small moments (as well as the big moments). What this means: he has to bring it up. We decided to break this recording into a part 1 and part 2 - we will be back next week with the continuation.

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