The Learning Leader Show With Ryan Hawk 235: Dr. Gay Hendricks - How To Make The Big Leap
Dec 11, 2017
Dr. Gay Hendricks, counseling psychologist and bestselling author known for The Big Leap and Conscious Loving, shares his life in transformation work. He explores the upper limit problem and how people self-sabotage at peak success. He outlines four nervous-system responses to fear and describes the four operating zones that reveal your genius. Stories include his Oprah moment, late-life creativity, and finding freedom by doing what he loves.
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Radical Openness To Learning
- Top leaders share radical openness to learning and drop defensive reactions.
- Gay Hendricks says this stance separates sustained high performers from stuck executives.
Fear Contracts Performance
- Fear underlies defensiveness and blocks growth by making people contract away from the moment.
- Hendricks says addressing shared fears directly opens communication and learning.
Disclose Your Fear Publicly
- When fear shows up in public speaking, acknowledge it and disclose it to the audience.
- Gay Hendricks recommends 'painting it red' to remove the power of anxiety and move through it.
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Intro
00:00 • 1min
Traits of Leaders Who Sustain Excellence
01:29 • 5min
Why People Resist Learning
06:58 • 4min
Practical Advice for Public Speaking Fear
10:53 • 6min
Athlete Mindset and Performing Under Pressure
16:37 • 3min
The Upper Limit Problem Explained
19:20 • 2min
The Four Operating Zones
21:23 • 5min
Making the Big Leap Into Your Genius
25:54 • 2min
Freedom, Pressure, and Financial Surprise
27:54 • 6min
Gay's Zone of Genius Defined
33:55 • 54sec
Oprah, Early Books, and Breakthrough Moments
34:48 • 2min
Accessing Creativity at Any Age
36:28 • 5min
From Novel Idea to Netflix Deal
41:10 • 1min
Keys to a Long, Thriving Marriage
42:10 • 6min
Learning Leadership and Closing Thoughts
47:57 • 2min
Outro
49:59 • 45sec
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Conscious Loving Ever After
Gay Hendricks
Kathleen Hendricks
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Learning to Love Yourself
Sharon Wegscheider Cruse
Learning to Love Yourself: Discovering the Self-worth You Deserve offers practical insights for individuals seeking to overcome low self-esteem and foster self-love.
Drawing from Sharon Wegscheider-Cruse's expertise in family therapy and addiction recovery, the book provides tools to recognize personal value, heal emotional wounds, and achieve greater self-acceptance.
It is part of her influential body of work addressing co-dependency, family health, and emotional well-being.
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The first rule of ten
Gay Hendricks
The First Rule of Ten introduces Tenzing Norbu, a former Tibetan monk who becomes a private investigator in Los Angeles.
The novel blends mystery with explorations of emotional and spiritual growth as Ten navigates personal dilemmas and cases.
Co-authored by Gay Hendricks and Tinker Lindsey, it kicks off a series illustrating the protagonist's inner journey alongside detective work.
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Conscious loving
the journey to co-commitment
Kathlyn Hendricks
Gay Hendricks
This book helps couples diagnose and overcome the symptoms of co-dependence in their relationships.
It introduces three stages of relationships: co-dependence, co-commitment, and co-creativity.
The authors, drawing from their own experiences and work with over a thousand couples, provide a step-by-step program to turn unconscious loving into conscious loving.
The book emphasizes the importance of full closeness, personal development, revealing oneself fully, empowering others, taking responsibility for one's reality, and having a good time in relationships.
It includes practical exercises and commitments to help individuals move from co-dependence to co-commitment and co-creativity, enhancing energy, creativity, and overall well-being in the process.
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The big leap
Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level
Gay Hendricks
In 'The Big Leap,' Gay Hendricks addresses the concept of the Upper Limit Problem, where individuals subconsciously sabotage their own success and happiness due to deep-seated fears and limiting beliefs.
The book introduces four zones of activity: the Zone of Incompetence, Zone of Competence, Zone of Excellence, and Zone of Genius.
Hendricks emphasizes the importance of identifying and operating in the Zone of Genius, where one combines what they love doing with what they are exceptionally good at.
He also outlines four common hidden barriers to success: feeling fundamentally flawed, fear of disloyalty and abandonment, believing more success brings a bigger burden, and the fear of outshining others.
The book provides practical advice on overcoming these barriers, embracing continuous growth, and achieving a balance between professional success and personal fulfillment.
Episode 235: Dr. Gay Hendricks - How To Make The Big Leap
Gay Hendricks, Ph.D., has been a leader in the fields of relationship transformation and bodymind therapies for more than 45 years. After earning his Ph.D. in counseling psychology from Stanford, Gay served as professor of Counseling Psychology at the University of Colorado for 21 years. He has written more than 40 books, including bestsellers such as Five Wishes, The Big Leap and Conscious Loving (co-authored with his co-author and mate for more than 35 years, Dr. Kathlyn Hendricks), both used as a primary text in universities around the world. In 2003, Gay co-founded The Spiritual Cinema Circle,which distributes inspirational movies and conscious entertainment to subscribers in 70+ countries.
Gay has offered seminars worldwide and appeared on more than 500 radio and television shows, including OPRAH, CNN, CNBC, 48 HOURS and others. In addition to his work with The Hendricks Institute, Gay is currently continuing his new mystery series that began with The First Rule Of Ten
Episode 235: Dr. Gay Hendricks - How To Make The Big Leap
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Show Notes:
- Commonalities of leaders who sustain excellence:
- Openness to learning
- Great listener
- They do not waste time being defensive
- The makeup of insecure people who won't learn = Fear. A bug --> You poke it, it curls towards the center. They are scared. We have the same nervous system from many years ago
- Must acknowledge the fears -- "Don't try to out argue them or "out-facts" them"
- "Speak to your shared fears" when scared
- The 4 things we do when scared:
- Fight
- Runaway
- Freeze
- Space out
- Fear tries to take us out of the moment
- His story of going on the Oprah show -- "Being on Oprah was like having 10 shots of espresso"
- What is the upper limit problem? A point in success/happiness -- if you go past the point of it, you do something to knock yourself down. Fears keep people locked in certain zones
- The 4 Operating Zones
- Zone of incompetence
- Zone of competence
- Zone of excellence
- Zone of Genius
- Most love to do? "Living full time in the zone of genius"
- Why you should start with "10 minutes of what you most love to do" -- Then continually bump that time up
- Making the leap -- Freedom, pressure. Stand up, walk your talk. So rewarding, but can you make money?
- "The money became an effortless byproduct of doing what I love"
- Walk quietly and with passion... Auspicious things happen
- Life rewards expression of true genius
- Early 90's, Gay spent 30% of time in his genius zone, then 50%, then 70%, now 90% of time is spent in his zone of genius
- His zone of genius? "Be a model of creativity. Explain complicated things in a simple way."
- Oprah called it "Learning to love yourself"
- Creativity - Conscious loving ever after -- How to access more creativity? Every day after 50 is a choice between creativity and stagnation. Move, play, create new ideas. At age 65, Gay started lifting weights. Must keep moving your body
- He wrote his first mystery novel at age 65 (Wow!)
- He just sold the mystery series to Netflix to turn it into a television series
- It's never too late to start accessing new paths of creativity
- Put your mind on how to create more
- Learning Leader = "Commitment to learn from the moment"
"Life rewards expression of true genius."
Social Media:
- Read: The Big Leap
- Follow Gay on Twitter: @GayHendricks
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