In Bed With Alexa: Have Better Sex Sex Work, Tickle Fetish, and OnlyFans (ft. Reed Amber)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) welcomes Reed Amber, a multifaceted sex educator, sex worker, and co-host of the popular podcast Come Curious. In this episode, Reed opens up about her experiences and insights into sex work, body confidence, and intimacy. She shares her journey toward embracing nipple confidence, the challenges of vulva and labia diversity, and how growing up in a “naked family” helped her view normal bodies as healing and empowering.
We delve into her private and professional lives, discussing how she balances intimate, private sex with her boyfriend and the content they create for OnlyFans. Reed shares her love for feet and tickle fetishes, breaking down the shame she once felt and how she now embraces her desires—right down to hosting tickle parties in London and experiencing orgasms from unique sensations like tickling or bladder pressure.
Reed also reflects on growing up with an autistic mom who was open about sex, the joy and excitement she finds in sex work, and her thoughts on unfair UK laws targeting sex workers. She debunks myths about sex workers, discusses STI stigma and statistics, and opens up about her journey toward sobriety and how it has transformed her sex life, including attending sex parties sober.
We also touch on her podcast Come Curious, how she met her co-host Florence (author of This Book Will Make You Feel Something), and how they navigate creative differences. Plus, Reed shares her evolution from being a “size queen” to reevaluating her preferences.
Trigger Warning: This episode includes mention of childhood sexual assault.
Topics include:
- Embracing nipple and vulva confidence
- Balancing sex with your partner vs sex for OnlyFans
- Growing up in a naked family and its healing effects
- Reed’s tickle and full bladder fetish
- UK laws targeting sex workers and their impact
- STI statistics and breaking down stigmas
- Sobriety and its effect on her sex life
- Foot fetish content creation and Reed’s joy in sex work
- Insights from the Come Curious podcast
This episode is a powerful mix of vulnerability, joy, and breaking stigmas about sex, work, and identity.
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