The Dildorks Selectively Social
Aug 1, 2023
They talk about navigating social life during the pandemic and how solitude reshaped connection preferences. They cover higher standards for social time and the effort expected in conversation. Practical tactics come up: managing message overload, using voice or media to spark contact, and low-stakes flirting and outreach. They also consider friends who are quieter online and creating private shared spaces.
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Pandemic Rewired How They Value Alone Time
- Kate and Billy view pandemic-era isolation as a durable shift that taught them how to enjoy extended alone time.
- Kate lost shame about solitude and gained higher standards for spending time with others after long-distance relationships primed her for online intimacy.
Higher Standards For Social Time
- Billy raised his standards for social interactions because abundant solo time made shallow hangouts feel unnecessary.
- He now prefers avoiding uncomfortable socializing when being alone is more enjoyable and restorative.
Mechanize Replies With Unread Marks And To‑Do Items
- Use message tools and to-do lists to manage social maintenance so important conversations don't slip away.
- Kate marks messages unread and adds reply tasks to digital lists to remember social follow-ups.
