The Dildorks Tears for Queers
Jun 20, 2023
A frank chat about the many flavors of crying in kink and daily life. They compare surprise tears with slow builds and what triggers crying in scenes. The conversation explores crying as erotic practice, emotional masochism, and stress resolution. They also cover hormones, childhood lessons, witnessing vulnerability, and how phone or verbal play can reliably elicit tears.
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Kleenex Batman Subway Surprise Triggered Cry
- Kate cried when Billy surprised her at a subway station with Kleenex in a Batman onesie after she missed a flight.
- That unexpected care triggered a sudden overwhelmed cry tied to being witnessed and comforted.
Erotic Crying As Emotional Sadomasochism
- Kate frames erotic crying as emotional sadomasochism: negative feelings experienced safely can be pleasurable because they feel bad yet are contained.
- She finds catharsis in consenting kink that separates emotional cause from the physical feeling.
Use A Big Cry To Complete The Stress Cycle
- Use a deliberate cry to complete the stress cycle when you can't exercise; Emily Nagoski suggests "have a big cry" to show your body it's safe.
- Kate and Billy cite this as an accessible way to resolve physiological stress.
