Modern dating can be tough. Between apps, ghosting, and the uncertainty that often comes with meeting strangers outside our social circles, the whole process can be seriously activating — and all the more so for those with anxious attachment patterns.
In this episode, I share three key mindset shifts to help you approach dating from a place of self-worth rather than scarcity, pessimism, or the need to be chosen.
When you date from a grounded place, the focus shifts from seeking approval to assessing alignment—and that change alone can transform your experience of dating.
In this episode, I cover:
- Why modern dating can be particularly challenging for people with anxious attachment
- The importance of getting clear on your non-negotiables and deal breakers before you start dating
- Why tolerating situationships and ambiguous connections keeps you stuck
- The difference between scanning for red flags and looking for green flags
- How fear-based dating advice can increase anxiety and erode self-trust
- Why cultivating your own vitality and wellbeing changes the energy you bring to dating
- How shifting from “please choose me” to “are we aligned?” creates healthier connections
- Why it’s sometimes wise to take a break from dating apps if the process feels draining
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