Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex The 5 Love Languages (& Why Your Spouse's Love Tank Is Still Empty), #599
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Mar 9, 2026 
Leslie Parrott, a marriage therapist and relationship author, and Les Parrott, a clinical psychologist and relationship expert, expand the Five Love Languages with personality, seasonal shifts, and “love tank” leaks. They explore dialects within each language, when more becomes too much, why gifts and touch aren’t one-size-fits-all, and tools to assess where a relationship really stands.
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Love Languages Need Dialects And Personality
- The Five Love Languages need a next step: dialects and personality shape how a language is received.
- Les discovered his encouragement-heavy approach didn’t fill Leslie’s tank because he missed her specific dialect of compliments and appreciation.
Use The Premium Assessment Not A Guess
- Take a thorough assessment rather than guessing your love language to get practical dialect and personality results.
- Les describes the Five Love Languages Premium Assessment as a 15+ page tool that teases out dialects and priorities beyond the free quiz.
Personality Changes How Love Is Best Expressed
- Personality (e.g., introvert vs extrovert) changes how a dialect is best expressed.
- Example: extroverts prefer public words of affirmation, introverts prefer private compliments.
