Guest Sam Jolman, a trauma therapist, discusses the importance of arousal in masculinity, distinguishing sensuality from sexuality. He explores the impact of purity culture, the script of arousal, and the connection between arousal and shame. Embracing sensuality and playfulness, the podcast challenges societal norms and encourages men to reclaim their sexuality for awe and joy.
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Arousal Is Good
It's good to be aroused; arousal is a good part of you, not something to fear.
Arousal is God's artwork designed to move you.
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Sexuality Is Scripted
Sexuality is scripted, shaped by experiences, and connected to desires.
Unlike bodily drives, it's a want, not a need, influenced by your heart and life story.
question_answer ANECDOTE
Awe of an Athlete
Drew Boa's friend felt drawn to basketball player Caitlin Clark's performance.
Jolman explained this as arousal leading to awe of her athletic skill, not lust.
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"There is nothing inherently wrong with an aroused man." What is arousal? Why is it good? Sam Jolman helps us reclaim the heart of masculine sexuality for the purpose of awe, play, and worshipping God. You'll learn how arousal always has a script, why evil hates arousal, and the difference between sexuality and sensuality. At the end, you'll receive a beautiful blessing from Sam. This episode is amazing!
Sam Jolman (MA, LPC) is a trauma therapist with over twenty years of experience specializing in men’s issues and sexual trauma recovery. His writing flows out of this unique opportunity to help people know and heal their stories, and find greater sexual wholeness and aliveness. He received his master’s in counseling from Reformed Theological Seminary and was further trained in Narrative Focused Trauma Care through the Allender Center at The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. Sam lives in Colorado with his wife and three sons. Fun fact: Sam and Drew attend the same church!
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