The Dildorks Just Say the Word
Aug 8, 2023
A lively dive into safewords and consent tools in kink. They explain stoplight systems and choosing memorable words. The conversation covers consensual non-consent, playing without a safeword, and nonverbal signals. They explore nuanced color meanings, when to check in, and how to negotiate aftercare and responses to safewords.
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Use The Stoplight System
- Use a stoplight system (green/yellow/red) so meanings stay simple and easy to recall mid-scene.
- Pick colors or single words that won't come up in the scene and negotiate any extra meanings beforehand.
Pick Recognizable Words And Specific Colors
- Prefer universal, easy-to-remember safe words like 'red' so bystanders or house staff can intervene.
- Use extra colors for specific needs (medical, panic, bathroom) to convey precise actions quickly.
Yellow Gives You A Middle Ground
- Yellow safe words create crucial middle ground for scaling intensity without ending the scene.
- That option lets bottoms check in without losing the headspace or the experience they want.
