Polycurious 62. When Your Partner Chooses A Nesting Partner with Roshi & Frankie
Sep 23, 2025
Discover the complexities of maintaining a long-distance polyamorous relationship! Roshi and Frankie share their journey of balancing multiple partners while prioritizing their connection. They discuss managing jealousy, the importance of communication, and finding security even with a nesting partner. Learn how to identify needs, embrace differences, and experiment for growth. This candid conversation highlights the emotional work necessary for non-monogamy and the inner journey it inspires.
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Supporting Partner While Seeking Clarity
- Roshi supports Frankie's nesting partner and feels happy for her while also seeking clarity about their relationship's future.
- She balances joy for Frankie's growth with questions about logistics, time, and her place in Frankie's life.
Translate Triggers Into Needs
- When triggered, identify the specific need (time, presence, quality) behind the feeling before raising it as a conflict.
- Use your relationship 'North Star' to prioritize conversations that move you toward shared goals.
Protect Visit Time From Small Conflicts
- Let small scheduling irritations go during limited visit windows and save major topics for dedicated conversations.
- Prioritize connection during visits instead of rehashing nonessential grievances.