Episode 59: How to Ask for Anything Without Sounding Difficult with Dethra Giles

Have you ever stayed quiet in a meeting because you were worried about how your pushback would land? Or stayed silent about something you deserved because you did not want to rock the boat? That fear of being labeled difficult is costing you more than you think.   In this episode of In Confidence, Lisa sits down with HR expert, four-time TEDx speaker, and author Dethra Giles to solve one of the most requested challenges from our community: how to ask for more at work without sounding difficult.   Dethra shares her D.A.R.E. model, a four-step framework for conversational intelligence that works whether you are making a big ask, disagreeing in a meeting, or negotiating your way through a no. In this episode you will learn:

• Why capable, accomplished people shrink instead of speak up
• How to push back and disagree at work without blowing up the relationship
• Why no is not the end of the conversation, it is the start of a negotiation
• How to ask for a promotion, a project, or an opportunity by leading with value
• The one thing you should build right now to ask for anything with confidence

If self-advocacy, workplace communication, and conflict management are areas you are working on, this episode will change how you show up tomorrow.  

Download our free PDF: How to Ask for Anything Without Sounding Difficult

 

Learn more from Dethra Giles: https://www.dethragiles.org/

 

Get That's Not What I Said: https://www.dethragiles.org/book-me

 

00:00 Intro

02:04 Meet Dethra Giles

07:39 How to Ask for Something Without Sounding Difficult

11:09 Dethra's D.A.R.E. Model

12:07 How to Push Back Without Starting an Argument

13:07 Live D.A.R.E Walkthrough

18:47 How to Ask for Something Without Sounding Entitled

25:23 When You Hear No

28:15 Three Things to do Tomorrow

31:34 Lisa's Power Move and Shoutout

 

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