Heal The Hurt How Your Parents Created Your Toxic Shame
Jun 29, 2024
Dive into the origins of toxic shame and learn how parental behaviors can unintentionally undermine a child's self-esteem. Discover the difference between simply doing and being, and explore a simple stillness test that reveals deep-seated emotions. Understand how neglect can breed shame and how this internalized contempt affects self-worth. With insights on fostering authentic selfhood, the conversation encourages nurturing a positive environment for children to thrive.
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Doing Versus Being Confusion
- Parents often confuse imperfect actions with imperfect being, teaching children they themselves are the problem.
- This miscommunication seeds toxic shame and produces a false self that prioritizes doing over simply being.
Culture Trains Us To Be Doers
- Culture rewards being a constant 'doer' which often masks toxic shame-driven compulsions.
- Many people cannot simply 'be' because achievement has become their identity and avoidance of inner pain.
Practice Thirty Seconds Of Stillness
- Try sitting still for 30 seconds with no external stimulus to notice how much avoidance exists.
- Use this small practice to reveal buried trauma, shame, fear, and denial so you can begin addressing them.