Death on the Daily Softness in a world that says move on from grief with Amber Jeffrey
In this powerful episode I chat with Amber Jeffrey, founder of The Grief Gang, to talk about grief, mental health, and why feeling your grief is a radical act in a world that tells you to move on.
Amber shares her experience of losing her mum at 19 and later her dear friend Poppy - plus the frustration that led her to build a grief community that feels human, creative, and alive.
This conversation is about resisting the rush to move on. It’s about courage that looks like breath-by-breath getting through it. It’s about reclaiming grief as human — not broken. Because grief is everyone’s business. And feeling it? That’s revolutionary.
Together, we explore:
- Why grief isn’t linear (and never neat)
- The harm of pathologising “prolonged grief”
- The failure of traditional grief support systems
- The lifelong, messy nature of grief
- The importance of community in healing
- Radical acts of support and self-compassion
- Why grief connects us all as humanity
- The power of community in healing
- How softness becomes survival in a harsh world
Disclaimer:
This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional advice. Nor is it a substitute for professional support.
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The theme music for Death on the Daily is Set Free by Katie Gray, which is used with artist's permission.
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This podcast is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.com
Chapters:
00:00 Introduction: The Softness of Grief
01:08 Amber Jeffery's Personal Grief Journey
02:01 Societal Support for Grief in 2016 vs Now
03:48 Isolation in Grief and Support Systems
07:50 Therapy Experiences and Barriers
10:27 Starting the Grief Gang Community
12:40 The Need for Diverse Grief Support Modalities
15:33 The Power of Choice in Support Resources
20:53 The Messiness of Multiple Losses
22:35 Grief as a Continuous, Non-Linear Process
25:48 Trusting Hope and the Process of Grief
28:37 The Binary Mindset and Grief's Complexity
32:56 Self-Compassion and Harsh Inner Voices
34:42 Resisting Societal Grief Norms
37:40 Connecting Humanity Through Shared Pain
42:22 Grief as a Universal Experience of Love and Loss
45:13 The Importance of Feeling and Empathy
47:12 The Evolution of the Grief Gang Community
53:18 Creating a Supportive, Joyful Community
59:40 Final Words: Hope and Presence in Grief