Why strangers feel safe to confess

What if the amount of information share—or don’t share—is affecting your life more than you think?

We live in a world where oversharing gets a bad rap, but undersharing can be just as problematic. Striking the right balance between too much information (TMI) and too little information (TLI) is a skill that can improve your relationships and even help you grow mentally stronger.

My guest today is Leslie John, a behavioral scientist, Harvard Business School professor, and author of the new book Revealing. Leslie shares her insights on the science and art of sharing, and how revealing just a little more can strengthen your connections and mental health.

Some of the things we discuss in this episode include:

• Why undersharing might be a bigger problem than oversharing.
• The surprising benefits of taking small social risks and sharing more.
• How to identify opportunities to share meaningfully without crossing into TMI territory.
• The role of emotional literacy in understanding and communicating your feelings.
• Why silence isn’t always the safest option—and how it can hold you back.
• How to handle the tension of “Should I speak up or stay silent?”
• Why we’re more likely to share secrets with strangers than close friends.
• The surprising power of sharing your feelings—even at work.
• How to recover when you feel like you’ve shared too much.
• Why revealing something personal can actually make people like you more.

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