Research, Books, and Coaching Recommendations

The first episode of the Neurodiverse Love Docuseries was released on February 14, 2026. Through this four part series, you will meet four Neurodiverse couples who share some of their lived experiences, lessons learned and the strengths, challenges and differences they’ve had in their marriages. None of the couples knew they were in a mixed neurotype relationship when they married and each shares some of the experiences that have led to more connection, understanding and acceptance of each other’s differences.

In addition, you will hear from three coaches/therapists who work with Neurodiverse couples. They share their perspective on why challenges may be occurring and also provide strategies and tools for increasing connection.

To contribute to this very important project or to learn more about the docuseries click here.

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This is another fantastic presentation from the 2025 Neurodiverse Love Conference. During this episode you will learn from Rev. Dr. Stephanie Holmes and Rev. Dan Holmes who are not only ordained ministers but a happily married neurodiverse couple of 30 years! Stephanie & Dan coach couples  primarily who are faith-based  and will share how the role of faith can help build connection and intimacy in the neurodiverse couple or how the rules, roles and rigidity of religion can bring disconnection in the neurodiverse relationship.

Stephanie and Dan Holmes write from lived experience as a NeuroDiverse Christian Couple (NDCC) as well as professional experience working with NDCCs. Their first book, written with their adult children, Embracing the Autism Spectrum: Finding Hope & Joy Navigating the NeuroDiverse Family Journey focuses on their parenting journey of neurodivergent children and discovering their own neurodiversity in marriage.

Dr. Stephanie C. Holmes received her bachelor's degree in psychology from Campbell University, her Master's in counseling from Liberty University, and her doctorate in education from Abilene Christian University. She is an ordained minister, author, autism researcher, speaker, and certified autism specialist. When her daughter Sydney was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome, her world and focus changed from a thriving marriage and family therapy practice to a world of Individualized Education Programs, 504 educational plans, and understanding how to help students and individuals with challenges and needs in the classroom and the church setting. She is the owner and founder of Autism Spectrum Resources for Marriage & Family, LLC, and she and Dan are co-founders of The International Association of NeuroDiverse Christian Marriage, LLC, and the podcast NeuroDiverse Christian Couples.

Dan Holmes is a seasoned leader with a rich background in systems architecture, design, and consulting. He received his bachelor's degree in management information systems from The University of Charlotte and his Masters in computer science through The Georgia Institute of Technology. He is also a professional coach who guides Neurodivergent men, helping them harness their unique potential in personal and professional spheres. These dual roles allow him to integrate innovative thinking with empathy, fostering a culture of understanding and driving holistic growth. Dan is an ordained minister, Master Life Coach, and has served in church ministry through band ministry, small group leadership and board leadership. He received his own identification on the spectrum in 2019.

Their book, Uniquely Us is based on published research from Dan's later-in-life adult autism diagnosis and focuses on faith, marriage and autism. It then examines how neurodiversity and faith create a complex relationship dynamic for NeuroDiverse Christian Couples. If you want to continue to learn about NDCCs, join Stephanie & Dan on their podcast, NeuroDiverse Christian Couples at: 

www.christianneurodiversemarriage.com.