Spontaneous vs. responsive desire

Most people in long-term relationships think their sex life could be better. So what can you do if you and your partner don’t really seem to be in synch anymore when it comes to sex? In today’s show, we’re going to explore how to respark your sexual connection. We’ll also dive into the topic of sexual initiation, including how we can learn to initiate in ways that are actually going to stimulate desire in our partners.

I am joined once again by Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy, an AASECT-certified sex therapist who helps couples navigate sex, desire, and connection. She is also author of the new book Parents in Love: A Great Guide to Sex After Kids.

Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:

• What is sensate focus, and how can it be a beneficial practice in relationships?
• How can we get better at initiating sex?
• What are some ways for us to learn more about our own desires?
• Why is it important to expand our definition of sex and bring more creativity into the bedroom?

You can visit Rebecca’s website to learn more about her work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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