Why people 'give in' to weddings

Weddings are such a rich text. Maybe the richest text? At least how they're performed today, at the intersection of conspicuous consumption and cultural capital. What do your wedding favors say about you? What about your cell-phone policy? The number of times you post your wedding photos? If you have three separate wedding outfits, is that extra? But is just one... not enough? And if people talk so much shit about weddings (going to them, paying for them, planning them) why don't we just get married like it's 1962?

Amanda Montell — author of The Age of Magical Overthinking and architect of an extremely extra wedding — joins the pod to unpack wedding culture's turn towards content creation (with a bunch of bonus talk about how to do what actually feels right for you). What a wacky, joyful, yet still classically Culture Study ep!

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Show Notes:

Follow Amanda Montell on IG here: https://www.instagram.com/amanda_montell/?hl=en

We talk a lot about Amanda's wedding/wedding photos — a peek here: https://www.instagram.com/p/DK2R0NzsruX/?hl=en&img_index=1

Buy The Age of Magical Overthinking here: https://bookshop.org/a/56144/9781668007983

Buy Cultish here: https://bookshop.org/a/56144/9780062993168

Listen to Amanda's podcast, Sounds Like a Cult: https://www.soundslikeacult.com/

And her other podcast, Magical Overthinkers: https://bio.site/magicaloverthinkers

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For this week’s discussion: How have you observed the content-ification of weddings in your world... and how have you seen people resist it?

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