EMDR for Couples: Healing Together Through Simultaneous Processing
A Conversation with Arilda Surridge, LMFT
What happens when EMDR moves beyond the individual—and into the relationship itself?
In this episode of Notice That, Bridger and Jen sit down with Arilda Surridge, LMFT, author and EMDR clinician, to explore how EMDR can be ethically, safely, and powerfully integrated into couples therapy. Arilda shares a clear, grounded framework for working with two nervous systems in the room—without deviating from EMDR fidelity—and offers concrete clinical examples that bring this work to life.
This conversation goes far beyond theory. Together, we walk through:
- When couples EMDR is and is not appropriate
- How to assess whether a trauma is individual, shared, or relational
- What simultaneous EMDR reprocessing actually looks like in practice
- How compassion, accountability, and repair emerge through bilateral stimulation
- Why tools alone often aren’t enough for deeply dysregulated couples
Arilda also shares clinical wisdom from her work with couples navigating car accidents, attachment injuries, guilt and shame, trust ruptures, and relational enactments—highlighting how EMDR can help partners move from reactivity to empathy.
This episode is especially valuable for:
- EMDR therapists working with couples
- Clinicians navigating attachment trauma and relational enactments
- Therapists curious about maintaining EMDR fidelity in non-traditional applications
- Anyone interested in how trauma lives between people—not just within them
About the Guest
Arilda Surridge, LMFT is a licensed marriage and family therapist, EMDR clinician, and the owner of Wellness Counseling Inc. She specializes in integrating EMDR into couples therapy while maintaining fidelity to the eight-phase protocol. Arilda is the author of a practical, clinician-focused book on EMDR for couples and offers professional trainings on this emerging area of practice.
Find out more about her practice here: https://wellnesscounselinginc.com/about/
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