Women and Men, It's All So Bad How We Look, Right?

Shame is a universal human experience. But the messages and expectations that fuel shame are so organized by ginder. For men, there's a really kind of singular, suffocating expectation, and that is, do not be perceived as weak. When i'm very vulnerable, when i'm in fear, when i talk about it openly, it permanently changes the dynamics in our relationship. I've come to this belief that if you show me a woman who can sit with a man in real vulnerability, in deep fear, and be with him in it, i will show you a woman who has done her work"