In this episode, Sabrina breaks down self-abandonment in dating and relationships, why losing yourself often gets mislabeled as love, and how chronic people-pleasing, codependency, and anxious attachment actually form. Using psychology, neuroscience, and attachment theory, she explains differentiation of self, emotional fusion, and how the nervous system drives self-betrayal, protest behavior, and fear of abandonment in romantic relationships.
You’ll learn how to choose yourself without blowing up your relationship, stop outsourcing emotional regulation, set boundaries without guilt, and reconnect to your intuition versus anxiety. This episode is essential for anyone struggling with relationship anxiety, overgiving, losing their voice in dating, or repeating unhealthy relationship patterns.
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Chapters
00:00 – Are You Losing Yourself in Love?
03:05 – When “Compromise” Is Self-Betrayal
06:00 – Why You Fuse in Relationships
08:55 – Codependency Isn’t the Real Issue
11:55 – Anxiety vs Intuition in Dating
14:55 – Why Your Nervous System Panics
18:10 – How Self-Abandonment Shows Up
21:50 – Boundaries Without Losing Love
24:50 – How to Choose Yourself Safely
28:05 – The Fusion Check (Real-Time Tool)
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