Lighting candles: champion others and renew your light

Alan urges reminding yourself of intent, insulating environment, and lighting others' candles after lighting your own.

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What If Your Next Shot… Your Next Sale… Your Next Decision… Is the One That Changes Everything?

Today I’ve got one of your all-time favorite guests back on the show, and there’s a reason the downloads go through the roof every time he’s here. When I sit down with Alan Stein Jr, you get value in every single minute. We’re talking about mindset, emotional control, confidence, intensity, and what it really takes to separate yourself from the pack. Alan’s new book, Next Play, isn’t just about sports. It’s about life. It’s about what you do after you miss the shot, lose the sale, get knocked down, or make a mistake you wish you could take back.

We unpack what Alan calls having a “whiteboard memory.” The great ones erase the miss and step into the next moment like it never happened. Think about that. How many of us drag the last mistake into the next opportunity? How many people let one bad quarter, one breakup, one failure define their identity? Alan and I talk about why attaching your self-worth to outcomes is a trap. Confidence is not built on results. It’s built on process, preparation, keeping the promises you make to yourself, and mastering the fundamentals. That’s where real separation happens.

We also dive into one of the most powerful lessons I’ve ever heard about excellence. Alan shares the story of working with Kobe Bryant at 3:30 in the morning. Not flashy drills. Not tricks. Just relentless attention to the basics. Kobe told him, “I never get bored with the basics.” That line alone could change your life. The great ones do not skip steps. They do not get distracted by hype. They obsess over mastery. And they stack that obsession for years. That is how you create separation no one can catch.

But this episode is not just about performance. It’s about fulfillment. Alan challenges the idea that we should chase happiness. Happiness is fleeting. Fulfillment is built. It’s built through resilience, emotional regulation, accountability, and learning how to move to the next play without becoming a victim of the last one. We talk about parenting, leadership, business, relationships, and what to do when you’re flat on the canvas and need a way forward. If you’re in a season where you need a reset, this conversation is your blueprint.

I’ll tell you this. The most powerful thing Alan said today is that your next play can be your best play. Not because the last one was perfect, but because you learned from it. Your mistakes are not your identity. They are part of your collage. And if you’re willing to forgive yourself, adjust, and step forward with intention, your next 50 years can be your best 50 years.

This one will hit you right between the eyes in the best way possible.

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