

What Fresh Hell: Laughing in the Face of Motherhood | Parenting Tips From Funny Moms
Margaret Ables and Amy Wilson
When you're a parent, every day brings a "fresh hell" to deal with. In other words, there's always something. Think of us as your funny mom friends who are here to remind you: you're not alone, and it won't always be this hard.We're Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables, both busy moms of three kids, but with completely different parenting styles. Margaret is a laid-back to the max; Amy never met a spreadsheet or an organizational system she didn't like.In each episode of "What Fresh Hell" we offer lots of laughs, but also practical advice, parenting strategies, and tips to empower you in your role as a mom. We explore self-help techniques, as well as ways to prioritize your own needs, combat stress, and despite the invisible workload we all deal with, find joy amidst the chaos of motherhood.If you've ever wondered "why is my kid..." then one of us has probably been there, and we're here to tell you what we've learned along the way.We unpack the behaviors and developmental stages of toddlers, tweens, and teenagers, providing insights into their actions and equipping you with effective parenting strategies.We offer our best parenting tips and skills we've learned. We debate the techniques and studies that are everywhere for parents these days, and get to the bottom of what works best to raise happy, healthy, fairly well-behaved kids, while fostering a positive parent-child relationship.If you're the default parent in your household, whether you're a busy mom juggling multiple pickups and dropoffs, or a first-time parent seeking guidance, this podcast is your trusted resource. Join our community of supportive mom friends laughing in the face of motherhood! whatfreshhellpodcast.com
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Nov 22, 2024 • 40min
Fresh Take: Chip Leighton, "What Time Is Noon?"
How is it our teens find us so cringe while also depending on us for clothes, shelter, and Chipotle? Chip Leighton, author of the new book WHAT TIME IS NOON, discusses the disconnect between teens' naivete about the world and the ironclad rules of interaction they still see fit to impose upon their parents.Chip Leighton is creator of The Leighton Show, a hilarious social media platform about parenting and marriage. Its viral videos have been seen more than 250 million times.Margaret and Chip discuss:
How vacation is a new location in which your teens will blame you for everything
Funny mistakes teens make when it comes to cooking, driving, and traveling
The "horrifying" mistakes parents make when it comes to technology
Here's where you can find Chip:
theleightonshow.com
@The_Leighton_Show on TikTok, IG, and FB
Buy WHAT TIME IS NOON: https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9781682689240
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Nov 20, 2024 • 45min
Why Women Have Less Free Time
A recent report found that the division of home responsibilities is still grossly unequal. Mothers—whether they are married or single—do significantly more than fathers. In fact, the “The Free-Time Gender Gap” report found that “simply being a woman is linked to spending more time on unpaid childcare and household work, and having less free time, even when controlling for age, income, race/ ethnicity, parental status, and marital status."What does it mean for women to have less free time, and how can we keep working to close the gender gap?Amy and Margaret discuss:
The differences in socialization between men and women when it comes to our living spaces
How time inequality serves to further reinforce and perpetuate gender inequality
How "secondary childcare" factors into the free-time gender gap
Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode:
Natalia Vega Varela, and Leyly Moridi “The Free-Time Gender Gap: How Unpaid Care and Household Labor Reinforces Women’s Inequality,” Gender Equity Policy Institute, October 2024.
Allison Daminger for the American Sociological Review: De-gendered Processes, Gendered Outcomes: How Egalitarian Couples Make Sense of Non-egalitarian Household Practices
Anne Helen Petersen on Substack: What Makes Women Clean
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Nov 19, 2024 • 34min
We Think You'll Love: "What It's Like To Be" Podcast
We’re excited to share an episode of the podcast “What It’s Like to Be…” from New York Times bestselling business book author Dan Heath.In every episode, Dan interviews someone from a different profession: a cattle rancher, a FBI special agent, a professional Santa Claus. He asks what it’s like to do what they do. It’s the perfect show to listen to with your kids – it’s family safe but also gives them a preview of different careers, and the kinds of personalities that fit with the work.Is a Secret Service Agent supposed to pretend like they’re not there when they’re around the president?What does a hair stylist do when a client asks for a celebrity hairstyle that will never work for them?In the preview you’re about to hear, you’ll meet a marine biologist who studies manta rays. You’ll hear how drones have changed her work, what it’s like to get to know individual rays, and why people have such a romantic image of being a “Marine Biologist.”You can find more episodes of “What It’s Like to Be…” wherever you get your podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Nov 18, 2024 • 44min
DEEP DIVE: Introverts vs. Extroverts (and Making Room for Both in Your Family)
This month's Deep Dive series is all about family dynamics. Listen to the whole playlist on Spotify.What makes us introverts or extroverts– and why do so many of us choose our total opposites for our parenting partners? In this episode we talk about the myths of introverts and extroverts, why opposites attract, and how to parent kids who are also your total opposites.In this episode, Amy and Margaret discuss:
The ways that introverts and extroverts solve problems
How they navigate being the opposite of their partners
How to advocate for your kids depending on their social orientation
Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode:
Natalie Arroyo Camacho for Well & Good: "3 Obstacles To Expect From an Introvert-Extrovert Relationship—Plus Whether It Can Work at All"
Rodney B. Lawn et al: "Quiet Flourishing: The Authenticity and Well-Being of Trait Introverts Living in the West Depends on Extraversion-Deficit Beliefs"
Healthline: "Are You an Extrovert? Here’s How to Tell"
R. L. LaFevers for Wired: Tips For Introverted Parents Raising Extroverted Kids
R. L. LaFevers for Wired: Are You Raising An Introvert?
Are You an Introvert? Take this assessment
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Nov 15, 2024 • 43min
Fresh Take: Dr. Dan Siegel
What is the "whole-brain perspective" when it comes to parenting, and what does it mean to parent with the brain in mind? Dr. Dan Siegel, founding co-director of the UCLA Mindful Awareness Research Center and Executive Director of the Mindsight Institute, and author of the psychology classic THE WHOLE-BRAIN CHILD, explains how we can help our kids learn from difficult experiences rather than avoid them. Dan, Amy, and Margaret discuss:
What whole-brain integration means
How neurodivergent brains function
How parents can help their children lead balanced, meaningful, and connected lives
Here's where you can find Dr. Siegel:
www.drdansiegel.com
@drdansiegel on social media
Buy THE WHOLE-BRAIN CHILD: https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9780553386691
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Nov 13, 2024 • 47min
We Regret to Inform You...This Totally Works
What do you do that, goshdarnit, actually works exactly as advertised to make your life better? In this episode, we discuss all the early bedtimes and PT exercises that we find annoyingly effective, plus...
time management tactics that are frustrating useful
meal planning methods that work every time (if you do them)
how to make your phone more boring—and immediately less interesting
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Nov 11, 2024 • 41min
DEEP DIVE: Pushing Kids the Just-Right Amount
This month's Deep Dive series is all about helping our kids through hardships like making mistakes, getting rejected, and facing competition. Listen to the whole playlist on Spotify.Do you worry about finding the balance between forcing your kid to keep doing activities that are good for them (that you already paid for) and not letting them be miserable all the time? How do you keep them on track academically without having to run flashcards with them about the Peloponnesian War for the billionth time? Here's what the research says about when to push our kids - and when to let sleeping (Peloponnesian) dogs lie.A listener in our Facebook group asks:"How do you decide when to push your kids? Like when to go from YMCA basketball to the travel team. Or when to go from regular school to the accelerated program, or the private school that's more rigorous. When to apply for the stretch school or the internship? We don't want to ruin hobbies or turn the stress up to 11, obviously. So how do you know which knob to turn and when to turn it so that their ambition, their ability, and their achievement all line up in perfect balance and harmony?"Amy and Margaret discuss:
The “optimal push” and how it's different from over-parenting
Achievement-by-proxy distortion (sing out, Louise!)
The factors to consider when pushing your child to do something
Ultimately, kids are optimally supported when they believe their parents’ love is not performance-contingent. The answer lies in helping them fulfill their potential without damaging their self-esteem.Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode:
Amy Wilson for New York Family: Finding the Optimal Push
Our episode "How Not To Live Through Our Kids"
Dr. Eddie Brummelman et al: My Child Redeems My Broken Dreams: On Parents Transferring Their Unfulfilled Ambitions onto Their Child
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Nov 8, 2024 • 44min
Fresh Take: Emily Rubin Persons of Skip Coaching
How can we help our kids prepare to move from a structured high school/ home environment to the less structured and more independent college environment? It starts earlier than you think! Emily Rubin Persons, founder of SKIP Coaching, explains how to help kids build the skills they need from a young age. Emily is a certified ADHD Coach who works with students and adults to build their executive skills and learn to do things in a way that works for their brain.Here's where you can find Emily:
www.skipcoaching.com
@SKIPcoaching on IG
@EmilyRubinPersons on LinkedIn
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Nov 6, 2024 • 47min
Helping Kids Manage Their Friendships
What do we do as parents when our kids aren't great at making friends, or their friends are outgrowing them, or we feel that their friends are a bad influence?Sometimes, we're not supposed to do anything at all. Sometimes our kids really need our support. How can we tell the difference?In this episode, Amy and Margaret discuss:
what might contribute to trouble making friends
the skills kids can develop to become better friends
what to do when you don't like your kid's friends
Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode:
Michelle Icard for CNN: Parents ‘should be seen and not heard’ when it comes to kids and their friendships
Parenting.org: My Child Has No Friends
Julia Morrill for Health Matters: How Parents Can Help Their Kids Make Friends
Lexi Walters Wright for Understood.org: 4 skills for making friends
Claire McCarthy for Harvard Health Publishing: Helping children make friends: What parents can do
Kelsey Borresen for HuffPost: What To Do If You Don’t Like Your Kid’s Friend
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Nov 4, 2024 • 44min
DEEP DIVE: Competition: How Much Is Good For Our Kids?
This month's Deep Dive series is all about helping our kids through hardships like making mistakes, getting rejected, and facing competition. Listen to the whole playlist on Spotify.Does competition have benefits? What level of competition is healthy for our kids? Many of us agree that the stereotypical dad yelling through the fence at T-Ball is taking things a little too seriously. But others say that participation trophies teach our kids to be lazy and therefore represent the ultimate downfall of our civilization. How do we balance the eye of the tiger with just letting our kids play?In this episode we get to the bottom of why some people are more competitive than others, what the right age is for kids to start learning the lessons of losing, and how competition (when it's done right) can actually teach cooperation and self-regulation.Here are links to some writing on the topic that we discuss in this episode:
'Shirtless Tongan' Pita Taufatofua makes Olympic history
Evolution of competitiveness: Scientists explain diversity in competitiveness
Byron Heath on Kerri Strug
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