Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam

What would you do if your teen told you a classmate was making threats? Most parents freeze — unsure whether to panic, dismiss it, or act. In this episode, Dr. Cam sits down with Nicole Hockley, co-founder of Sandy Hook Promise and mother who lost her six-year-old son Dylan in the 2012 Sandy Hook tragedy, to talk about one of the most important skills a parent can develop: knowing when something is wrong with your teen before it becomes a crisis. Nicole has spent over a decade studying the warning signs that precede school violence and teen crisis — and what she shares might surprise you. The signs are rarely dramatic. They're quiet. Easy to explain away. And most parents miss them. In this episode, you'll learn: The difference between subtle and overt warning signs — and why the subtle ones are more dangerous Why dismissing your teen's feelings ("you're overreacting") actually makes things worse The single most powerful protective factor against teen crisis (hint: it's not monitoring) What to do when a peer reports something concerning about your child How to secure lethal means at home — and why this one step saves lives The tiered response framework that helps you stay calm and act appropriately at every level of concern A word from Nicole that every parent needs to hear: "I would much rather be embarrassed by being wrong than be horrified by being right." Connect with Nicole Hockley & Sandy Hook Promise: 🌐 sandyhookpromise.org 📘 facebook.com/SandyHookPromise 📸 instagram.com/sandyhookpromise 🐦 twitter.com/sandyhook 🎵 tiktok.com/@sandyhookpromise ▶️ youtube.com/channel/UCl5MxshIyRwoFNsFut6UZdA Resources mentioned: Sandy Hook Promise's UnTargeting initiative & latest report with Children and Screens: sandyhookpromise.org If you or your teen is in crisis: 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: call or text 988 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741741 Emergency: 911 Your instinct to reach out for help is never an overreaction. This episode could change how you see your teen — and how they see you.

If consequences used to work… and now they just lead to more attitude, shutdowns, or the same fights on repeat—this episode will explain why. If you’re parenting a teen and struggling with defiance, power struggles, or constant pushback… you’re not alone. Because it’s not that your teen suddenly stopped caring. It’s that their brain has changed—and the tools that worked before don’t work the same way anymore. In this episode, Dr. Cam sits down with Charle Peck, LCSW, M.Ed., an international keynote speaker, clinical therapist, and former educator who specializes in helping people stay calm and effective under pressure. Charle works with parents, educators, and professionals to transform high-stress situations into opportunities for growth using practical, science-backed strategies. Together, they unpack what’s really going on when consequences backfire—and the simple shift that can completely change how your teen responds. What you’ll learn in this episode: 👉 Why teens push back harder the more you try to control them 👉 What your teen actually needs in high-conflict moments 👉 The hidden reason your reactions may be escalating things 👉 A powerful question that instantly lowers defensiveness 👉 What to do instead of consequences to get better behavior If you’re tired of power struggles, walking on eggshells, or feeling like nothing is working anymore… this episode will give you a whole new way to understand—and respond to—your teen. Because your teen isn’t broken. They’re developing. And they need a different approach.   🎧 Enjoying the show? Follow and leave a quick review so more parents can find the support they need. Connect with Charle Peck: 🌐 Website: https://www.thrivingeducator.org/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charlepeck 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charlepeck 🐦 X: https://twitter.com/CharlePeck   🎁 Resource Mentioned: Rapid Resets: https://www.charlepeck.com/pl/2148694979 Connect with your host, Dr. Cam: 🌐 Website: www.askdrcam.com 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcamcaswell

Are you constantly worried your teen is making bad choices—and feel like consequences are the only way to “teach them a lesson”? You’re not alone. And you’re not wrong to care. But what if the very thing you’re doing to prevent bad decisions is actually making them worse? In this episode, we’re digging into one of the biggest parenting traps: punishing behavior instead of teaching the skills behind it. Because when your teen makes a risky, impulsive, or frustrating choice, it’s easy to assume they’re being careless, defiant, or just not thinking. But there’s something much deeper going on—and once you see it, everything about how you respond will start to shift. This isn’t about letting your teen “get away with it.” And it’s definitely not about lowering your standards. It’s about understanding what your teen actually needs in those moments so they can learn to make better decisions without you hovering, nagging, or constantly stepping in. Because the goal isn’t to control their choices forever… It’s to raise a teen who can think for themselves when you’re not there. If you’ve ever: Replayed a bad decision your teen made and wondered, “What were they thinking?” Felt stuck between being too strict or too lenient Worried that giving more freedom will just lead to worse choices This episode is going to give you a completely different lens—and a better way forward. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why teens make choices that don’t make sense to you (but make perfect sense to them) The hidden reason punishment often leads to more lying, hiding, and disconnection What your teen actually needs in the moment of a bad decision (hint: it’s not a lecture) How to help your teen build real decision-making skills—without constant power struggles A simple mindset shift that changes how you respond immediately 🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌 RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE ✨ The COLLABORATE Method™ Parenting Program A step-by-step system to help you stay calm, understand your teen, and guide better choices—without power struggles. www.askdrcam.com/collaboratemethod CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Each episode gives you practical strategies, real-life scripts, and expert insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen—without yelling, nagging, or walking on eggshells. #parentingteens #teenbehavior #drcamcaswell

Teaching your teen to drive can feel terrifying. If your teen is nervous behind the wheel—or keeps delaying getting their license—you’re not alone. Many teens today feel anxious about driving, and the way parents approach practice can either build confidence… or make that anxiety worse. In this episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, Dr. Cam talks with Nigel Tunnacliffe, CEO and co-founder of Coastline Academy, the largest driving school in the country, about how parents can help anxious teen drivers feel more confident and capable behind the wheel. Nigel shares what professional driving instructors know about teaching teens to drive safely—and why well-meaning parents sometimes make the process harder without realizing it. If teaching your teen to drive has felt stressful, frustrating, or overwhelming, this episode will help you turn practice drives into confidence-building learning experiences instead of power struggles. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why many teens today delay getting their driver’s license How parent anxiety can accidentally increase teen driving anxiety The biggest mistake parents make when teaching teens to drive How professional driving instructors build confidence in anxious teen drivers When teens are truly ready to start driving independently How to make practice drives calmer and more productive for both of you Why Teaching Teens to Drive Feels So Stressful Learning to drive is one of the biggest steps toward independence for teens—and one of the most anxiety-provoking moments for parents. When parents shift their role from critic to coach, teens learn faster, build confidence, and develop safer habits on the road. This conversation will help you approach this milestone with more calm, clarity, and confidence for both you and your teen. About Our Guest Nigel Tunnacliffe is the co-founder and CEO of Coastline Academy, the largest driving school in the United States. Coastline has helped more than 250,000 teens learn to drive safely across hundreds of cities. Nigel founded Coastline with the mission of reducing car crashes through better driver education and safer driving habits. Learn more: https://coastlineacademy.com Follow Coastline Academy: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coastlineacademy Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coastlineacademy Episode Chapters 00:00 Why Teaching Teens to Drive Feels So Stressful 00:53 Why Many Teens Are Delaying Their Driver’s License 03:41 Helping Anxious Teen Drivers Build Confidence 05:23 Encouraging Teens Without Creating Resistance 07:09 Managing Parent Anxiety During Practice Drives 09:56 Creating a Supportive Learning Environment 12:34 Celebrating Small Driving Wins 15:25 Teaching Through Observation and Empathy 19:02 Recognizing Responsibility in Teen Drivers 21:29 Building Safe Driving Habits 24:11 Helping Teens Gain Confidence Behind the Wheel 27:32 Setting Boundaries for New Drivers 29:19 Practical Tips for Safe Driving Practice Connect with Dr. Cam Website: https://www.askdrcam.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcamcaswell YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam   🎧 Enjoying the podcast? Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts. Your support helps more parents find practical strategies to strengthen their relationship with their teens. 🔔 Subscribe so you never miss another episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam.   parenting teens, teaching teens to drive, anxious teen driver, teen driving anxiety, parenting teenagers, helping teens gain confidence, teen independence, safe teen drivers

Is your teen acting entitled, ungrateful, or selfish — no matter how much you do for them? You’re not alone. And it may not mean what you think. In this episode, Dr. Cam explains why teen entitlement is often a normal part of adolescent development — rooted in brain changes, identity formation, and intense self-focus — not bad character. You’ll learn: • Why lectures and guilt trips about gratitude backfire • The psychology behind teen self-centered behavior • How to teach gratitude without shame or comparison • Practical ways to build empathy, responsibility, and perspective If you want to raise a grateful teen without damaging your relationship, this episode will give you a research-backed, connection-focused approach that actually works. Hit play to understand what’s really behind teen entitlement — and how to respond in a way that builds character, not resentment.   Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Teen Behavior and Entitlement 01:46 Understanding Self-Focus in Teens 04:27 The Role of Gratitude in Development 08:34 Building Perspective Through Experience 12:08 Teaching Gratitude as a Skill 13:33 Reframing Parental Responses to Teen Behavior 14:58 Conclusion and Next Episode Teaser   🎧 Enjoying the Show? Hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss practical, research-backed strategies for parenting teens. If this episode helped, a quick review helps more parents find support.   🔗 Resource Mentioned The COLLABORATE Method™ Parenting Program A step-by-step system for building responsibility, gratitude, and maturity — without shame or power struggles. 👉 AskDrCam.com/collaboratemethod   Previous Episodes in Series: Episode 269: Attitude Episode 271: Refusing to do chores Episode 273: Arguing all the time about everything Next Episode Preview: Episode 5 will cover "Making risky and bad choices" and how changing your approach can improve your teen's rational decision-making abilities.   About the Podcast Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam blends brain science, practical tools, and real-life scripts so you can parent smarter — not harder.

Teen boys shutting down can feel like rejection, but it’s usually self-protection. If your teen son won’t talk, gives one-word answers, or avoids conversations completely, this episode will help you understand what’s going on—and what actually works. Dr. Cam Caswell (adolescent psychologist + certified parenting coach) and licensed professional counselor Jarrod Hoffman break down teen communication, emotional withdrawal, and trust-building strategies that help parents reconnect with teen boys. You’ll learn how to stop the lecture cycle, use reflective listening, and create emotional safety so your teenage son opens up again. What You’ll Learn: Why teen boys shut down emotionally during puberty (and why it’s not rejection) The #1 communication mistake parents make that pushes teen boys further away How to use reflection instead of rapid-fire questions to build trust The “10-Minute Play Rule” that strengthens parent-teen connection What to say when your teen goes silent (without panicking or lecturing) Why teens already know what they “should” be doing—and why more advice backfires How to build trust with your teenage son so he talks to you again Connect with Jarrod Hoffman: Website: jarrodhoffman.com Newsletter: Jarrod’s Monthly Newsletter Blog: jarrodhoffman.com/blog LinkedIn: Jarrod Hoffman Connect with Dr. Cam Caswell: Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam (search “Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam”) Enjoying the show? Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review so other parents can find the support they need. Hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss a solution-packed episode. About the show: The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, each episode delivers practical parenting tools, expert insights, and real-world strategies to help you improve communication, reduce power struggles, and build a stronger relationship with your teen. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #teencommunication #parentingteenboys  

If it feels like every conversation with your teen turns into a debate… you’re not alone. In this episode, Dr. Cam flips the script on what “talking back” really means. What if your teen’s arguing isn’t disrespect… but development? What if those debates are actually signs of growing critical thinking, identity formation, and moral reasoning? You’ll learn why shutting down arguments with “because I said so” may create more power struggles, not fewer—and how to transform daily battles into opportunities to build confidence, connection, and real-life skills. If you’re tired of feeling like the bad guy every time your teen pushes back, this episode will help you respond with clarity, authority, and calm—without losing your leadership. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why teen arguing is often a sign of healthy brain development—not defiance The hidden cost of “because I said so” parenting How to separate disagreement from disrespect The difference between debatable topics and non-negotiable boundaries Phrases that keep conversations open without giving up authority How healthy arguing prepares teens to resist peer pressure and advocate for themselves   RELATED EPISODES IN THIS SERIES This episode is part of the series: “7 Teen Behaviors Parents Often Punish That Are Actually Signs of Healthy Development.” Be sure to check out: Episode 269: Attitude, eye rolls, and tone as signs of developing nervous systems Episode 271: Why teens resist chores (missing skills vs. laziness) Upcoming: Acting selfish and entitled as healthy development RESOURCE MENTIONED The COLLABORATE Method™ Parenting Program A step-by-step system for parents who are tired of constant power struggles and second-guessing themselves. Inside, you’ll learn how to: Stay in charge without escalating Allow disagreements without losing authority Respond with clarity instead of reacting in frustration Learn more at: https://www.askdrcam.com/collaboratemethod 🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌 CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction to Healthy Development Behaviors 01:18 Why Arguing Feels So Frustrating 03:56 Arguing as Executive Function Development 06:36 Teaching Respectful Disagreement 09:51 Debatable vs. Non-Negotiable Topics 12:09 The COLLABORATE Method™ ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tools to make parenting teens easier—and more connected. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #TeenDevelopment #ParentingTeens

Fighting with your teen about screens doesn’t mean you’re failing. It usually means you’re focusing on the wrong thing. In this episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, I’m joined by Stephen Balkam, Founder and CEO of the Family Online Safety Institute, who brings 30 years of experience helping families navigate online safety without fear or power struggles. We break down why traditional screen time rules backfire, why screen use matters more than minutes, and how parents can stay influential in a world where teens are using AI tools like ChatGPT and Claude for school, problem-solving, and decision-making. If you want to protect your teen online without losing trust or connection, this episode will help you rethink your approach. What You’ll Learn The biggest screen time mistake parents make (and what works better) Why quality of screen use matters more than quantity How the “co-pilot” approach keeps you involved without controlling Why involving teens in rule-setting increases follow-through What parents need to know about AI and critical thinking Simple boundaries that protect both safety and connection Resources Mentioned Family Online Safety Institute: https://www.fosi.org Seven Steps to Good Digital Parenting Digital Parenting Contract Template FOSI YouTube Channel AI tools discussed: ChatGPT, Claude Apps referenced: Pokémon Go, nature and star identification apps About the Guest Stephen Balkam is the Founder and CEO of the Family Online Safety Institute, a nonprofit working with major tech companies to make the online world safer for kids and families. He has been at the forefront of online safety for three decades and has witnessed the evolution from the early web to social media to today’s AI age. About the Show Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam helps parents stay calm, connected, and confident while navigating the challenges of raising teens. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach. 👉 Learn more and access free resources at AskDrCam.com 📱 For daily parenting tools, follow @DrCamCaswell on Instagram

If you’ve asked your teen to do a chore and they responded like you just requested a kidney… welcome. 🫠 Because here’s the thing: the chore battle usually isn’t about the chore. It’s about what happens after you ask—the stalling, the eye rolls, the “in a minute,” the sudden deep commitment to scrolling, and you repeating yourself until your voice hits a pitch only dogs can hear. In this episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, Dr. Cam breaks down the real reason chores blow up in so many homes—and why most of the common fixes (punishment, consequences, rewards, bribing, threatening, lecturing) often backfire long-term. You’ll learn the simple shift that can turn chores from a power struggle into cooperation—without begging, nagging, or doing it all yourself—plus the one mistake that accidentally teaches teens to avoid chores (and you) even more. If chores have become the hill your household dies on… this episode will change how you look at it—and what you do next. This is Part 2 of the series: 7 Behaviors Parents Often Punish That Are Actually Signs of Healthy Development. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why “clean your room” can feel impossible to a teen brain (even when they want to do it) The hidden reason punishment makes chore resistance worse over time The mindset shift that gets teens to help without the constant reminders How to build responsibility in a way that doesn’t destroy your relationship 🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌 RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Website: https://www.askdrcam.com The COLLABORATE Method™ Parenting Program – A step-by-step approach that helps you respond confidently to any teen struggle (chores, motivation, attitude, school stress, and more): https://www.askdrcam.com/collab CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell  YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam  EPISODE CHAPTERS: Why chores trigger so many power struggles The surprising reason your teen avoids starting (even when it’s simple) The parenting response that quietly increases resistance The “nag-free” strategy that changes cooperation How to build responsibility without resentment ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #teenchores #parentingteens

A lot of parents see the hours, hear the headphones, and picture the worst: strangers, predators, secret chats, and “Is my kid addicted to this?!” So in this episode, I brought in someone who actually knows what’s happening behind the scenes at Roblox: Tami Bhaumik, Vice President of Civility and Partnerships at Roblox. And let me tell you—this conversation will either calm your nervous system… or at least give you a real plan. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE The one thing most parents misunderstand about Roblox… and why it matters for safety A major safety feature rolling out that could change how teens connect with others online The screen-time question parents obsess over—and what actually signals a real problem Why “play with your teen” isn’t cheesy advice… it’s a shortcut to better conversations and more honesty How to set limits that don’t instantly trigger eye rolls, blowups, or shutdowns 🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Roblox Safety Center: https://corp.roblox.com/safety Parental controls, safety guides, video tutorials, and wellbeing resources for families. CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Tami Bhaumik Vice President of Civility and Partnerships, Roblox LinkedIn: @tamibhaumik   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: https://AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam  EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 – Roblox: What It Really Is (And Why Parents Misread It) 05:41 – The Safety Stuff You Actually Need to Know 11:47 – The Parenting Move That Changes Everything 16:49 – Screen Time: What’s Normal vs. What’s Not 22:38 – How to Work With Your Teen on Safety 28:18 – Tools, Next Steps, and Where Parents Should Start   ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this show gives you science-backed insights and real-life parenting tools you can actually use—so you can stop second-guessing yourself and start leading with more calm, clarity, and connection. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #Roblox #onlinesafety #digitalliteracy