

The Whole Parent Podcast
Jon Fogel - WholeParent
Welcome to 'The Whole Parent Podcast,' where we dive deep into evidence-based parenting strategies, blending cutting-edge psychology with real-world experience. Each episode offers insightful discussions, expert interviews, and practical tips to empower you and your family through the joys and challenges of raising children. Join us as we explore not just the highs of parenting, but navigate the complexities and embrace the journey together.
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Jun 6, 2024 • 31min
Sibling Conflict (Siblings Part 2) #24
Do you want to know how you can successfully navigate sibling conflict? This is the episode for you. Episode Number: #24Description: In this episode of the Whole Parent Podcast, Jon delves into the challenging topic of sibling conflict. He shares practical strategies for parents to navigate and resolve conflicts between siblings effectively. Jon also talks about the importance of fostering a team-centric environment and being a safe person for your children to express their frustrations.Timestamps:00:00 - Introduction and Jon's return to podcasting01:30 - Review of Raising Siblings Part One03:53 - Principle 1: Foster a team-centric environment09:49 - Principle 2: Be the safe person17:13 - Quick call to action: Subscribe and review20:24 - Principle 3: Be a mediator, not an arbitratorKey Takeaways: Jon's Three Principles for Handling Sibling Conflict:Foster a Team-Centric Environment: Emphasize that the family works as a team and avoid creating winners and losers among siblings.Be the Safe Person: Ensure that children can express their feelings without fear of punishment or judgment.Act as a Mediator, Not an Arbitrator: Facilitate communication between siblings to help them resolve conflicts themselves.What episode should you listen to next?Raising Siblings Part 1Adding a New BabyHow to Connect:Never Miss a New Episode: CLICK HERESubscribe: If you haven't subscribed to the podcast yet, please do so on your preferred platform.Rate and Review: Leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.Share: Share this episode with friends and family, especially those who would benefit from learning about handling sibling conflicts.Links to Resources Mentioned:Mr. Rogers' Song About FeelingsSiblings Without Rivalry BookConnect with Whole Parent:Email: podcast@wholeparentacademy.comSocial Media Links:Instagram: @wholeparentTikTok: @wholeparentSend us Fan MailSupport the showLinks to help you and me:To support the Podcast, Subscribe on SubstackGet Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation GamesGet Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings FreeFollow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook, Youtube

Jun 4, 2024 • 44min
Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids #23
Raising Emotionally Intelligent KidsEpisode Number: #23Description: In this episode of the Whole Parent Podcast, Jon discusses the importance of raising emotionally intelligent kids. Jon shares personal insights and practical steps on how parents can foster emotional intelligence in their children. Jon also opens up about his recent break from podcasting, the challenges he faced, and how taking time for self-care has impacted his parenting.Timestamps:00:00 - Introduction and Jon's return to podcasting00:34 - Focus on topical episodes and the importance of emotional intelligence01:32 - Understanding and processing emotions03:31 - Personal updates (Why I ghosted)08:43 - Step 1: Recognizing and understanding emotions17:56 - Step 2: Naming and labeling emotions30:03 - Step 3: Expressing emotions in a healthy way36:00 - Encouraging kids to express their emotionsKey Takeaways:Jon's Three Step Process for kidsRecognize Emotions: Check in with your body to identify physical signs of emotions.Name Emotions: Labeling emotions helps in processing and understanding them better.Express Emotions: Find healthy ways to express emotions, avoiding explosive outbursts.Links to Resources Mentioned:Dr. Mark Brackett's work on emotional intelligenceWhole Brain Child by Dan Siegel and Tina Payne BrysonAtlas of the Heart by Brené BrownWhat episode should you listen to next?Punishment-Free Parenting with Tina Payne BrysonHow to Connect:Never Miss a New Episode: CLICK HERESubscribe: If you haven't subscribed to the podcast yet, please do so on your preferred platform. Rate and Review: Leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.Share: Share this episode with friends and family, especially those who would benefit from learning about emotional intelligence.Episode Transcript: The full transcript of this episode is available here.Connect with Whole Parent:Email: podcast@wholeparentacademy.comSocial Media Links:Instagram: @wholeparentTikToSend us Fan MailSupport the showLinks to help you and me:To support the Podcast, Subscribe on SubstackGet Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation GamesGet Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings FreeFollow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook, Youtube

Apr 30, 2024 • 1h 15min
Punishment-Free Parenting with Dr. Tina Payne Bryson #22
Dr. Tina Payne Bryson discusses punishment-free parenting, emphasizing discipline as a means to teach skills rather than punishment. The podcast explores the importance of emotional regulation, setting boundaries, and building secure attachments. It also delves into the delicate balance of being firm yet approachable, fostering resilience in children through positive discipline. The discussion highlights the joy and purpose found in the parent-child relationship.

Apr 23, 2024 • 53min
Why kids usually "prefer" one parent #021
To subscribe to the Whole Parent Podcast community:CLICK HERE Ever felt like it's all on you and your kids ONLY wants you?OR Ever felt like, no matter what you do, you're always just second best in your child's eyes? You're not alone. In this episode, we examine the emotional rollercoaster of the attachment hierarchy in families. Sharing my own experiences as a non-preferred parent, I peel back the layers of this complex dynamic. As we traverse the spectrum of parenting challenges, from feeling like the backup to handling jealousy, you'll uncover strategies and reassurance that will redefine your approach to these sensitive situations.Parenting is not a competition, yet it can certainly feel that way. This episode sheds light on the evolutionary underpinnings of why children may gravitate towards one caregiver and how this is not an indictment of your parenting prowess. We'll navigate the tricky emotions that come with parental comparisons, offering insights into fostering secure attachments and empowering both preferred and non-preferred parents.Then I address preferred parents and non-preferred parents directly and ask "What can you do, based on your role, to support your child and your partner?" This was one of the most vulnerable episodes for me to record; I hope that you are encouraged and helped through listening!Send us Fan MailSupport the showLinks to help you and me:To support the Podcast, Subscribe on SubstackGet Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation GamesGet Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings FreeFollow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook, Youtube

Apr 18, 2024 • 1h 9min
Picky Eaters (with @Kids.Eat.in.Color) #020
Join the Whole Parent community for updates and free weekly resources. CLICK HEREThe resource Jennifer mentioned:Picky Eater ScreenerFollow JenniferHave you ever felt like you're in a mealtime showdown with your toddler, armed with nothing but a spoon and the "wrong" color cup? Me too. Every day.Today I'm joined by Jennifer Anderson of Kids Eat in Color to arm you with the strategies you need to turn mealtime battles into family building fun. We dissect the mystery behind toddler diets, discussing ways to make eating fun and how parents can lead by example to encourage adventurous food choices. This isn't just about getting peas onto their plate; it's about setting the foundation for a lifetime of healthy eating.Let's be real—feeding a picky eater can feel like trying to solve a Rubik's cube blindfolded (where the colors change every meal). Jennifer and I get personal, sharing our own experiences with the challenges of nurturing diverse palates. We tackle the rainbow of eating behaviors from choosy to chowhound and offer a fresh perspective on introducing new foods. This chat goes beyond the plate, delving into how to build a positive body relationship with your kids, ensuring they grow up with confidence in their food choices and themselves.Forget what you've heard about sugar and hyperactivity, or the myths that red dye is the root of all meltdowns. We're here to debunk these and other common misconceptions about kids' diets. Plus, we're dishing out practical tips like using micro portions and engaging kids in meal prep to encourage a more varied diet. By the end of our conversation, you'll have a toolkit filled with strategies to support your child in developing a healthy, resilient relationship with food—one joyful bite at a time. Join us on this culinary adventure and watch your little ones flourish into wholehearted, healthy eaters.Send us Fan MailSupport the showLinks to help you and me:To support the Podcast, Subscribe on SubstackGet Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation GamesGet Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings FreeFollow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook, Youtube

Mar 21, 2024 • 33min
Why Kids Lie (Part 2 of 2) #019
Click Here to listen to Why Kids Lie: Part 1Join the whole parent email list:HEREAs a parent, confronting the uncomfortable truth of a child's lie can be a heart-wrenching moment. On today's Whole Parent Podcast, we delve into the delicate balance of handling such revelations with empathy and understanding. Our conversation is grounded in personal experiences and the gentle wisdom of Fred Rogers, offering a guiding light to navigate through these parenting waters. From a tale of suspected stealing to the crucial steps of addressing mistakes, this episode is a heartfelt exploration of fostering honesty and growth in our little ones.Parenting is an art form, and just like any artist, we must learn from each brushstroke, each mistake. This episode provides a three-step process for responding to children's slip-ups in a way that builds trust and encourages learning. We tackle the intricate dance of communication, where curiosity leads and judgment takes a backseat, allowing our children to feel empowered rather than shamed. Role reversal becomes a tool, not just for understanding our kids but also for teaching them the value of empathy in their own interactions.Lastly, we broach the complex issue of theft, emphasizing the need for ethical conversations from the sandbox to the courtroom. By engaging our children in discussions about morality, we prepare them for the larger stage of life where right and wrong are often shades of gray. It's here, through non-judgmental dialogue and positive assumptions, that we lay the foundations for a future of ethical decision-makers. Join us on this journey of parenting with purpose, and don't forget to subscribe for more insights that strengthen our resolve and confidence as the sculptors of tomorrow's adults.Send us Fan MailSupport the showLinks to help you and me:To support the Podcast, Subscribe on SubstackGet Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation GamesGet Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings FreeFollow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook, Youtube

Mar 19, 2024 • 37min
Why Kids Lie (Part 1 of 2) #018
To join the list:CLICK HEREKid's lie. There are so many reasons kids lie and probably the most UNLIKELY one is the one most parent's believe. Our latest episode peels back the layers of childhood dishonesty, offering a comforting guide for parents grappling with their three-year-old's first ventures into untruths. We kick off with a candid look at the developmental milestones of toddlers, revealing why expecting unwavering honesty from someone still mastering the art of language and emotion is a step too far. I share practical advice for addressing your child's fibs about everyday tasks like bathroom use or teeth brushing, striking a balance between teaching right from wrong and understanding their stage of growth.Navigating the complex path towards raising honest kids, this episode underlines the vital role of autonomy. Discover how empowering your child's sense of agency through challenges like constructing intricate Lego masterpieces can actually steer them away from the need to lie. We dive into the nitty-gritty of fostering positive independence, celebrating our kids' triumphs, and knowing when to step back and let them revel in their own achievements. It's about nurturing their growth without inadvertently pushing them towards dishonesty in a quest to please us.And for those with children in the imaginative whirlwind of five to seven years, rest assured, your little one's fairy-tale narratives are a healthy part of their development. We explore how their vibrant imaginations bolster critical thinking skills essential for both current problem-solving and future success. So, before you correct your little one's next adventurous story, tune in to understand why their creative fabrications might just be a stepping stone to brilliance. Our journey doesn't end here, though; keep an ear out for our next episode, where we'll explore why older children may opt to weave a web of lies to sidestep consequences, completing our nuanced look at this integral part of growing up.Send us Fan MailSupport the showLinks to help you and me:To support the Podcast, Subscribe on SubstackGet Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation GamesGet Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings FreeFollow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook, Youtube

Mar 14, 2024 • 1h 11min
Dad Life (with @TheDadEdge Larry Hagner) #017
To join the Whole Parent community FREE CLICK HEREhttps://thedadedge.com/When your past knocks on the door unexpectedly after 18 years, you realize that fatherhood isn't just a role—it's a journey full of profound discoveries. This realization comes to life in my heartfelt sit-down with Larry Hagner from the Dad Edge podcast. We peel back the layers of what it means to be an active, engaged parent, touching on everything from the transformative effects of a standing desk to the emotional rollercoasters tied to our own childhood stories. As a father to four boys and a husband for over two decades, Larry brings a wealth of experience and insight into the art of communication and the power of vulnerability within family relationships. We share tales from our personal lives, revealing how past pains, like dealing with an absent father or the trials within stepfamilies, have sculpted our approaches to parenthood. It's a conversation that traverses the peaks and valleys of raising kids and nurturing a marriage, all while continuously growing as individuals.The promises we make as parents and the effort it takes to fulfill them are the pillars of this episode. I get real about the intricacies of discipline, the commitment to creating a loving environment, and the intentional raising of emotionally intelligent boys. We discuss the importance of setting boundaries while also being a beacon of safety and guidance. These stories and advice are woven into a rich tapestry that reflects the enduring impact of fatherhood on personal growth and the legacies we build for our children. Join us for a discussion that's not just about parenting but about the essence of manhood and the indelible marks we leave on those we love.Send us Fan MailSupport the showLinks to help you and me:To support the Podcast, Subscribe on SubstackGet Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation GamesGet Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings FreeFollow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook, Youtube

Mar 12, 2024 • 49min
Attention Seeking #016
Want more Whole Parent content? Join The ListFor the Episode referenced with Eli Harwood:CLICK HEREEver found yourself perplexed by your child's seemingly endless quest for attention? We're peeling back the layers on why kids clamor for the spotlight and how you might be contributing to it without even realizing it. Tap into a wealth of compassion-fueled insights and practical strategies as we tackle the myth that ignoring attention-seeking behaviors is the best route. From the seven-year-old who can’t play alone to understanding the unique needs of children with ADHD, discover how to guide your little ones towards healthy, independent connections.Remember the times when a simple hug could make everything better? That's the power of targeted, reassuring love we're advocating for in today's conversation. I'm drawing from my own journey as a parent with ADHD to share the kind of attention that enriches the parent-child bond and caters to neurodivergent children. You'll hear not just theories, but real-life applications that can turn around your child's playtime blues and bolster their emotional resilience.Wrapping things up, we're not just talking about managing attention-seeking antics; we're building a foundation for our children's future. Listen to heartwarming stories, like the one about my own son, that illustrate the triumphs of nurturing our kids' independence within a supportive framework. And yes, we're fostering frustration tolerance, but not at the expense of our relationship with our children. This is your roadmap to raising well-adjusted kids who know their emotional needs are just as important as their physical ones. Join us, and let's navigate this parenting adventure together.Send us Fan MailSupport the showLinks to help you and me:To support the Podcast, Subscribe on SubstackGet Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation GamesGet Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings FreeFollow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook, Youtube

Mar 6, 2024 • 44min
Raising Sibling (Part 1) #015
For the email list and everything Whole Parent CLICK HEREStruggling with sibling rivalry? Learn effective ways to foster harmony and connection among your children.Episode Number:Description: In this episode of the Whole Parent Podcast, Jon tackles the topic of sibling relationships and how to navigate common challenges. Whether it's dealing with sibling rivalry, sharing space and toys, or finding activities that all your kids can enjoy together, Jon offers practical advice and answers listener questions to help create a more peaceful and connected family dynamic.Timestamps:00:00 - Introduction & The Challenge of Sibling Rivalry 00:43 - Overview: Parenting Siblings Better 02:23 - Ashley’s Question: Newborn and Older Sibling Dynamics13:35 - Steven’s Question: Shared Space and Toy Conflicts23:49 - Kimberly’s Question: Activities for Kids of Different AgesKey Takeaways:Understanding Sibling Rivalry:Sibling rivalry is natural and often stems from a need for attention and connection.Individual, targeted attention for each child can significantly reduce rivalry.Effective Strategies:Provide special attention to each child during key times of the day.Schedule one-on-one time with each child to strengthen individual bonds.Encourage open-ended play to foster creativity and cooperation.Managing Shared Spaces and Belongings:Allow children to have personal items that are off-limits to siblings.Use communal rules for shared toys and spaces to prevent conflicts.Balancing Activities for Different Ages:Choose activities that are open-ended and allow each child to participate at their level.Avoid competitive activities that can lead to resentment and frustration.Links to Resources Mentioned:The Whole-Brain Child by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne BrysonSiblings Without RivalryWhat episode should you listen to next?Effective Discipline Without PunishmentUnderstanding Your Child's BrainHow to Connect:Never Miss a NeSend us Fan MailSupport the showLinks to help you and me:To support the Podcast, Subscribe on SubstackGet Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation GamesGet Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings FreeFollow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook, Youtube


