Teach Me How To Adult

It seems like pivot and resiliency are the hottest buzzwords of 2020. After all, change and adversity are the only constant in this life, and if this year has taught us anything, it’s that the more you focus on building a solid foundation within yourself, the more external chaos you can handle. Shifting our mindsets, perception and reactions is far from easy, but that’s the key to healthily recovering from turmoil and trauma. So, we called in mindset and success coach Leisse Wilcox to teach us everything we need to know about how to cultivate mental resilience and turn whatever life throws at you into a beautiful story. And Leisse is not just your average coach. She is a coveted mindset coach, podcast host, AND bestselling author, who is changing the global conversation on emotional health & wellness. She literally wrote the book on turning adversity into opportunities for growth, joy and beauty. Listen to our chat with Leisse to learn more about:Our tools for bouncing back from adversity: 2:08Why your mindset matters: 8:50The meaning of emotional alchemy (turning the dark and heavy pieces of your life into something beautiful and light): 10:37Leisse’s 10 steps to cultivating emotional alchemy: 13:11How to avoid toxic positivity and *actually* deal with your sh*t: 25:46Ways to process and feel your feelings: 28:33How to make a difficult life change with grit and grace: 30:31The importance of staying in the present moment and “zooming out”: 34:27Why gratitude is the key to mindset: 38:52Teach Me How To Adult is a podcast that serves up expert interviews, candid experiences and actionable advice on everything you never learned growing up. Follow along as we figure it out together!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.caFollow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:instagram.com/cailynmichaan/Follow Leisse:leissewilcox.ca/instagram.com/leissewilcox/Get her book:To Call Myself Beloved Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to this week's Quickie, our super fast take on all the adulting things that matter to you. This week, we’re diving into something we all need help with right now... how to navigate the news responsibly, while protecting our mental health. With COVID-19 numbers surging around the world, the upcoming US election, and the onslaught of disasters that 2020 has served up, there is more news being consumed than ever before, and it can be seriously overwhelming trying to stay up to date with accurate info, without going crazy. So we did our homework on how you can stay informed without sacrificing your sanity. Listen to our chat to learn more about: The importance of reading beyond the headlines & fact checking: 2:00How to avoid confirmation bias and learn all sides to a story: 2:45Identifying innate biases in the media: 4:12Finding sources that *explain* the news, rather than just breaking it: 6:13Different ways to consume the news that work for YOUR lifestyle: 8:42Drawing boundaries on your media intake for your mental health: 11:27Good news resources for when you need a smile: 14:46How to stay up to date with COVID without having anxiety: 16:02Teach Me How To Adult is a podcast that serves up expert interviews, candid experiences and actionable advice on everything you never learned growing up. Follow along as we figure it out together!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.caFollow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:instagram.com/cailynmichaan/ Fact Checking Resource:https://www.snopes.com/Media Outlet Bias Check:https://mediabiasfactcheck.comThe Media Bias Chart:https://www.adfontesmedia.com/ Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Businesses of all sizes have taken a ROUGH hit in 2020, and unstable employment is a stressor for everyone right now. So today we’re talking about how to bounce back from a layoff and what to do if it happens to you, with the help of Latesha Byrd, a certified career coach, talent development consultant, Google Digital Coach, and CEO of Byrd Career Consulting. Whether you’ve been laid off due to COVID, industry shifts, or company restructuring, remember that you are not to blame, and you’re so much more than what you do from 9-5. The best way to bounce back is with a solid strategy: You can start by identifying your purpose, getting intentional about job applications, and as Latesha says, “staying ready so you don’t have to get ready.”Listen to our chat with Latesha to learn more about: Our experience with how to handle a layoff: 2:40Latesha’s journey to Byrd Career Consulting: 17:273 key things to do after you’ve been laid off: 19:00How to mentally bounce back from job loss: 21:59 How to gain your confidence back: 24:18Why you need a “Career Readiness Toolkit”: 26:36How to grow your network: 28:44How to address your layoff in an interview: 32:013 important traits that all top talent have: 34:37Important questions to ask in an interview: 37:18How to ask companies about their diversity & inclusivity policies: 40:14Using LinkedIn to build your personal brand: 41:11Teach Me How To Adult is a podcast that serves up expert interviews, candid experiences and actionable advice on everything you never learned growing up. Follow along as we figure it out together!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.caFollow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:instagram.com/cailynmichaan/Follow Latesha:https://www.instagram.com/latesha_byrdhttps://twitter.com/Latesha_Byrdhttps://www.lateshabyrd.com/Latesha’s Career Chasers Membership Clubwww.careerchasersclub.com/ Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

This week’s topic is a tough one, but it’s something that we’ll all have to navigate at some point in our lives despite most of us feeling totally unequipped to cope with it. We’re talking about grief, with the help of mental health professionals Eleanor Haley and Litsa Williams, the founders of popular website and podcast What’s Your Grief. Whether you’re grieving the loss of a loved one, the general uncertainty of the pandemic, job loss, a breakup, a difficult diagnosis, or the loss of connection with the people you love, you might be experiencing grief in ways you didn’t even realize. And here’s the thing: there’s no “right” way to grieve. It looks completely different for everyone.Listen to our chat with What’s Your Grief to learn more about:Our personal experiences coping with grief: 2:29How to identify your individual grief coping style: 11:33Coping with anticipatory vs. unexpected grief: 15:59What not to say to someone who is grieving: 18:28Getting comfortable talking about loss, as a griever and a supporter: 24:02How to deal with loss during a pandemic: 27:04How to survive the holidays when you’re grieving: 32:24Identifying and managing grief triggers: 35:36Finding balance between grieving and living life again: 41:20Why alcohol and grief aren’t always bffs: 45:30 Teach Me How To Adult is a podcast that serves up expert interviews, candid experiences and actionable advice on everything you never learned growing up. Follow along as we figure it out together!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caFollow us on the ‘gram: instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian: instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn: instagram.com/cailynmichaan/Follow What’s Your Grief:instagram.com/whatsyourgrief/www.whatsyourgrief.comListen to the What's Your Grief PodcastTry the 10 day coping with grief challenge:https://school.whatsyourgrief.com/p/10-day-coping-with-grief-from-home-challenge Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

This week we’re mixing things up with a solo deep dive into some career #RealTalk! We’ve gotten lots of questions about how we got our start in the Media and Entertainment industry, so we’re bringing you the good, the bad and the ugly of how we go to where we are today, and our biggest tactical career takeaways.So pour yourself a glass and join us for happy hour as we chat about our career journeys, the biggest lessons we learned along the way, the best pieces of advice we ever received, and how to pursue a career you’re passionate about.Listen along to hear more about:Gill’s journey to magazine editing and video producing: 1:40Cailyn’s journey to movie marketing: 6:07Gill’s biggest lessons, from never playing small to learning when to say yes and no: 10:57Cailyn’s biggest lessons, including the power of good leadership and the importance of negotiation: 20:47Best advice Gill ever received: 29:21Best advice Cailyn ever received: 31:18 Teach Me How To Adult is a podcast that serves up expert interviews, candid experiences and actionable advice on everything you never learned growing up. Follow along as we figure it out together!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caFollow us on the ‘gram: instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian: instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn: instagram.com/cailynmichaan/ Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

We’re back with Part 2 of our highly anticipated relationship episode with relationship therapist, Liz Earnshaw! In this episode we chat with Liz about the four power struggles in a relationship, why you should go to bed angry,  how to recover from betrayal, how to set healthy boundaries, and how to help your partner if they are dealing with mental health issues.If you missed Part 1, be sure to go back and listen to episode 13, where we talked about surviving quarantine with your partner, managing long distance relationships (especially during COVID-19), avoiding Dr. Gottman’s Four Horsemen (Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt and Stonewalling), dealing with life’s stresses as a team, and more!Tune in to hear more about:- The most common relationship issues couples come to Liz with: 11:20- Four power struggles that can crop up in conflict: 13:44- How to move past a betrayal in your relationship: 18:18- How to set healthy boundaries in your relationship: 21:12- How to seek or offer support when one partner is dealing with mental health struggles: 23:34Liz is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and founder of A Better Life Therapy in Philadelphia. She helps couples through issues like betrayal, grief, loss, and trauma, while teaching the art of communication.  Teach Me How To Adult is a podcast that serves up expert interviews, candid experiences and actionable advice on everything you never learned growing up. Follow along as we figure it out together!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caFollow us on the ‘gram: instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian: instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn: instagram.com/cailynmichaan/Follow Liz: instagram.com/lizlistens/ Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Hi friends! We’re back after a brief hiatus to bring you an exciting new batch of episodes that we think you’ll love.We want to ensure that this podcast is super relevant and helpful in our current climate, so we’ve re-thought all of the episodes for this season and we’re committed to bringing you diverse guests and topics that matter most right now! We’re also going to be switching up our frequency so that we can continue to release thoughtful and well-researched episodes, with some seriously inspiring experts.This pause has given us the opportunity to reflect and educate ourselves on the most crucial matters that society is facing right now. To learn more and contribute to funds that are fighting for racial justice, check out the links below. To donate to the Official George Floyd Memorial Fund CLICK HERETo donate to the Official Justice for Breonna Taylor Fund CLICK HERETo donate to the Black Lives Matter Movement CLICK HERE Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to this week's Quickie, our super fast take on all the adulting things that matter to you. Spring has finally sprung, and since we’ve all been stuck in our homes for ages, this is the prime time to spring clean your life! In this week’s episode, we’re making organization fun again, and diving into simple ways to organize your home, your work life, and your time.Tune in to hear more about:- The psychology behind organization & its impact on our mental health : 4:00- How to tidy your home using Marie Kondo’s KonMari Method of Essentials: 5:00- Some of our favourite around-the-house organization hacks & products: 7:06- How to clean up your computer & Inbox: 9:00- Keeping your finances organized (hellllo tax time!): 10:38- How to schedule and track your time effectively: 11:43(PS: if you still need a little help getting your taxes organized, check out our Canadian tax prep checklist to help you track everything you need before you submit, at teachmehowtoadult.ca/taxes.) Teach Me How To Adult is a podcast that serves up expert interviews, candid experiences and actionable advice on everything you never learned growing up. Follow along as we figure it out together!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caFollow us on the ‘gram: instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian: instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn: instagram.com/cailynmichaan/ Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Today we’re talking about relationships: The struggles couples are facing right now, communication strategies to help improve things, and what we’ve learned about our own relationships in quarantine. Couples are navigating totally new and unprecedented stressors in their relationships right now due to COVID-19, so we called in relationship therapist Elizabeth Earnshaw, who helps her clients and hundreds of thousands of social media followers develop healthier relationships everyday.Liz is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and founder of A Better Life Therapy in Philadelphia. She helps couples through issues like betrayal, grief, loss, and trauma, while teaching the art of communication.Tune in for Part 1 of our relationship deep dive to hear more about:- What we’ve learned in our relationships: 1:49- How to manage long distance relationships: 10:15- How to handle quarantining with your partner 24/7: 15:05- How to use this time together to reconnect: 18:35- How to avoid Dr. Gottman’s Four Horsemen, AKA the four toxic conflict styles of Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt and Stonewalling: 19:51- How to deal with life’s stresses as a team: 32:04 Teach Me How To Adult is a podcast that serves up expert interviews, candid experiences and actionable advice on everything you never learned growing up. Follow along as we figure it out together!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caFollow us on the ‘gram: instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian: instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn: instagram.com/cailynmichaan/Follow Liz:instagram.com/lizlistensabetterlifetherapy.com Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to this week's quickie, our super fast take on all the adulting things that matter to you. If you’re like us, you may be feeling more stressed (and moody) than usual. Many of us deal with some level of stress at the best of times, but when you toss a global pandemic and quarantine into the mix, it’s safe to say that almost everyone is feeling anxious in some capacity. We interviewed therapist Megan Rafuse a while back, and we’re bringing you a few highlights from our conversation that are super relevant and helpful for anyone who is feeling stressed today. So carve out a little time for you right now, and listen in for our key takeaways on how to manage stress, deal with anxiety, nourish yourself and find more balance.Megan is a mental health innovator who specializes in millennial wellness. She’s the owner of the Toronto-based therapy clinic, Shift Collab, which offers one-on-one therapy and mental health workshops, catering to busy, highly-driven young adults. Megan’s relatable approach to mental wellness makes it so accessible for everyone, and her tips on managing stress and burnout have really helped us over the past few months.If you’re looking for tangible resources to help you navigate your mental wellness, we’ve created a life balance wheel and emotion bank account worksheet for you to use at teachmehowtoadult.ca/stressless! Tune in to the episode for Megan’s guidance on how to use them. Teach Me How To Adult is a podcast that serves up expert interviews, candid experiences and actionable advice on everything you never learned growing up. Follow along as we figure it out together!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caFollow us on the ‘gram: instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian: instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn: instagram.com/cailynmichaan/Follow Megan:instagram.com/meganrafuse/ instagram.com/theshiftcollabwww.shiftcollab.com Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube